Recently, I heard some of my friends talking behind my back on social media. Sometimes I feel excluded from conversations in the group, which makes me very sad. I’ve never encountered such a situation before, and I don’t know what to do. What are your suggestions?
Something similar happened to me too. Some members of the group had been talking behind my back in a story, I didn’t notice at first. Then, when I put some distance, they lined up like strings. Maybe you should try it.
but who did you learn this from? I mean, is it someone reliable in the end? I think it depends on that.
@kahvebitmeden a friend told me, but I’ve heard similar things from a few different people. I couldn’t tell if it was coincidental or done intentionally.
@pazardandondum I think the part where they lined up like an IP is a bit exaggerated, people sometimes just exist in their own world. It’s better to try talking instead of placing distance directly.
Things that spread over social media are usually the result of incorrect or incomplete communication. If this situation really affects you, try talking face to face one-on-one. Instead of distancing yourself with prejudice, try to understand the reason.
@benbisorayim but what if they aren’t sincere to begin with? I don’t think it’s necessary to be overly optimistic; honestly, one needs to trust their feelings.
@yazipsildim but is the situation only when they are not minding their own business? Groups can sometimes be really exclusive. It seems more reasonable to do a bit of observing.
Ask directly.
A few stalks, story analysis can be useful too, so there’s no need to ask. Joking aside, I really think you should confront it.