To be honest, it wasn’t planned at all. Now the test came back positive and my wife and I are in shock. We haven’t even been married for a year yet, and we don’t know how our families will react to this situation. Especially my mom is very reactive; what if she reacts badly? When and how should I tell my family?
Well, if you think your mother is such a reactive person, have you ever talked to her about a big issue and managed to convince her before? I mean, you know how she responds, have you ever handled a situation like this before?
Sweetheart, first of all, calm down. It happened to me once too, it was really hard to explain, but here's what I did: my spouse and I sat down and chose the best time. Are you thinking of telling your mom together with your spouse? That would be more reassuring, I think.
To be honest, in a situation like this, it's clear what the right choice is between "speak up and feel relief or hide it and experience stress." Does it make sense to hide it so your family doesn't find out? After all, how long can this be kept secret?
Honestly, it’s important to make sure about your health first. It’s completely natural to feel stressed since it's unexpected, but it would be more beneficial to share such news with your spouse, perhaps with information from a doctor’s check-up. The fear of reaction is very understandable, but it helps to convey a calm tone in communication.
I'll add this too, my mom was a bit angry at first because our marriage happened so quickly. My wife says, "we'll say it together," but I'm worried that if she gets nervous when telling my mom, my mom will come down harder on me 😅.
I think you should say it without dragging it out too much, otherwise, you'll end up worrying your mom by asking "did we get embarrassed?" or "why did you hide it?" These things always get more complicated in our circle, the earlier you share, the less the issue grows.
well, there's just one thing; it's a bit related to why you're in 'shock.' The test has come back positive, you're married... so why does it become such a big issue? Families don’t get upset about becoming parents after all, so don’t treat it like something to be ashamed of 😅
I totally understand that feeling, by the way. When you wake up in the morning, you first think, 'Is this real or did I see it wrong?' At that moment, there's already a storm brewing inside you. At least having your partner by your side to fully experience this is a great advantage 🙃
