Iâm writing, but he sees it and replies hours later. Sometimes he doesnât even write back at all. But when we meet, he acts quite interested. Iâm really unsure; should I consider this a strategy or is it normal if heâs really busy? Have you experienced a situation like this? How did you resolve it?
I donât think thatâs normal. If heâs seeing you now and making you wait for hours, he either doesnât care or thinks youâre very reliable. Fine, it might happen once or twice, but if it keeps happening, thatâs not nice. Just because heâs attentive during the meeting, unfortunately, it doesnât mean this guy is balanced in everything.
My ex was like that too. He would see my messages but wouldnât reply for hours, then would say he was âbusyâ or something. But I found out he was joking around with his friends on WhatsApp. So sometimes it might not be a strategy but rather a matter of priorities. If heâs really busy, just keep an eye on it.
But I think youâre being a bit obsessive. Not everyone may be available at that moment. I believe itâs more important to follow up later. Immediately thinking âstrategyâ when they donât write is a bit of a negative perspective. For example, have they been doing this for a while, every time?
Now, this is somewhat related to differences in communication styles. Some people may not like texting or might not want to distract themselves during work. However, while their attitude during a meeting might be good, regular communication is an important criterion in serious relationships. If you feel uncomfortable, itâs beneficial to express this clearly.
Let me add a detail: when I ask about why they didnât write, they say things like âI was very busy, my mind was full.â But sometimes there comes a moment when I look and see theyâve been checking stories on Instagram. That frustrates me a bit.
But if you notice what you said, the situation is different. If he uses work as an excuse but is active on social media, thatâs a bit problematic. It means he isnât making time for you. It was the same in my previous relationship; he wasnât sincere. I suggest you have an open conversation.
Have you ever tried making a comment about looking at stories on Instagram? I think if you bring this topic up directly, youâll understand it better. Someone who is really busy doesnât spend too much time on social media.
It could be like this: Men usually get the message but think about writing later. But this can be perceived as âyouâre not a priorityâ. As for the story issue, maybe it was just a moment to pass the time. I think you can solve it by talking.
Oh, seeing the story without getting a response really makes you want to vent, doesnât it? Even if theyâre interested in meeting, this text exchange is just draining you. I remember reading that some people feel uncomfortable with messaging. But even if thatâs not the case, we really need to talk directly.