Since I was little, I dreamed of having my wedding at this beautiful hotel when I got married. But when we booked that hotel, the costs significantly increased. My fiancé is saying we should have it somewhere more affordable, just for two hours of fun, he says. Is he right, I wonder? But I don’t want to give up on my dream either. After all, we only get married once. What should I do?
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7I was also burning with the same dream when I got married. There was a hotel I really liked, and I would constantly watch wedding stories on Instagram. But once the budget was set, I realized we were really heading into a debt trap after the wedding. My fiancé and I sat down and talked about what we really wanted; I trimmed part of my dream but we found a more affordable venue. Now that I think about it, what mattered was having fun that day and living in the moment. Would it have made a difference if it was a hotel?
So, does your fiancé have a definite stance on this? I mean, is there absolutely no flexibility? Also, do you have any other plans besides the wedding expenses, like a honeymoon or a house?
@objektif_cözümcü we will have expenses related to the house as well. But my fiancée says we shouldn’t give up on the honeymoon. I’m really struggling with my dream, but I’m afraid that if I insist, I might make her feel bad 
@deneyimli_gelin you’ve given up on your dream right away, but not everyone can give up that easily. Also, that day happens only once; your fiancé should be a bit more flexible. Dismissing it by saying it’s just two hours is, in my opinion, quite inconsiderate.
Open communication regarding wedding expenses is very important. Exceeding your joint budget can put a strain on one side in the future. My suggestion is to list the aspects of the wedding that you consider important and determine which ones you want to spend more on. Maybe you can create an impact with a higher quality catering service instead of a hotel. You can optimize your dream without exceeding the budget.
Friends, I want to ask something. They say that when a wedding is expensive, the marriage lasts longer. Is that true? I heard something like that somewhere. So, is the quality of the wedding not important then?
@mahrem_saf you’ve heard wrong. There’s no such thing. On the contrary, they say that those who have excessively luxurious weddings divorce more quickly. Happiness doesn’t come from luxury, it comes from harmony.