My stomach hurts and it hasn't gotten better for days; it seems to worsen as I get more anxious. But my family keeps saying, 'You have nothing, it'll pass,' and they don't take me to the doctor. I'm 23 years old, and I think I should go and figure it out myself, but on the other hand, I'm hesitant because of the pressure I feel. How do you think I should solve this?
I think you should just go by yourself. I'm also 21, and my parents sometimes give guarantees out of nowhere like "it'll pass" or whatever. If it doesn't pass, in the end, it's your health, and no one else knows what it's like to suffer.
I don't think this is just a matter of "passing". There could be a situation in your family where going to the doctor is seen as unnecessary, or they might resist spending money. But this is your life, so you shouldn't neglect it.
Honestly, many families in Turkey consider postponing doctor visits as normal. The phrase 'It'll pass' is very common. But this is actually their standard reflex; they haven't reacted with bad intentions. Act decisively to resolve it before it grows too big.
I've had discomforts that seemed to get worse the more I stayed still. It feels like you build up that pain in your head too, wondering "what just happened" with every movement. Waiting like this is truly unbearable, you definitely need to see a doctor.
Stomach pains can sometimes be very simple issues, but they can also be a sign of critical problems related to internal organs. It might be something like a bowel obstruction or gastritis, but the person who can make the diagnosis is a doctor. At 23 years old, you can definitely go.
Update: Either yes or my family seems to have a vibe of "we're going for nothing anyway, nothing will come out of it." I think it's a money issue, but they're not talking about it openly. I guess I've decided to go myself, let's see what happens 🙂
To be frank, your family wants to protect you, but I think they're doing it the wrong way. Sometimes it might also come from the mindset of "there's no need to spend, it will fix itself anyway." But this is a matter related to women's health that needs to be taken more seriously.
As an adult woman, you have the authority to make decisions about your own health. No matter what your family thinks, this is your body and your responsibility. Socially, it's truly exhausting for women to constantly be pressured in matters like these.
Okay, you're right, but maybe at some point you could be exaggerating, because your family might also see it with the reasoning of 'if we keep rushing you to the doctor, you'll become more sensitive.' Since they didn't say 'don't go' with bad intentions, try to understand why they are reacting like that first.
