Three weeks before our wedding, my girlfriend messaged her ex. I think that’s wrong, but it’s not like it’s a huge issue. Why would she do something like that? I felt bad when I found out, but maybe I’m overreacting.
Well, my ex sent me a message out of the blue a week before my engagement. I think we stay in the back of their minds. But I didn’t marry a guy who does things like that, so think carefully about your decision.
What did he/she message his/her ex about, did he/she write something special?
@soncaykaldi no, it’s not something special, but still, what’s the point, right? They just wanted to stay friends.
@aklimkaldi it’s silly to stay friends, what kind of friendship? Such behavior doesn’t suit someone who’s going to get married.
I think this situation depends entirely on your perception of trust. If their words and actions are inconsistent, explain clearly why you’re uncomfortable. But if you don’t want to seem stuck in the past, speak calmly.
@benbisorayim with the wedding so close, how can you stay calm? I think if the trust is already shaken, there’s no point in talking nonsense.
Invite his ex-girlfriend to the wedding as well and let them dance to make it perfect.
I could never digest this.
Wanting to stay friends seems like an excuse for the situation. The real question is why this courage before the wedding? Who suggested writing to that ex, think about that.
Maybe his ex wrote, and he took it slow. The phrase “Let’s just be friends” is usually used to dodge the issue. Make sure to find out who started it and what the intention was.
Why is she responding even if it’s her ex writing? What is she trying to resolve? Such complications before the wedding cast a shadow on the “new beginning” vibe, but clearly, she’s a laid-back person; the rest is up to you. I suggest talking, but be clear.
This isn’t about wedding stress or anything; there’s sheer comfort here. I mean, what does it even mean to be “friends” with the ex three weeks before the wedding? Is he still curious about the ex, or is he trying to get closure? Ask directly, why exactly were they talking?