My cousin has fallen seriously ill, and because of that, I've postponed my wedding. I've been waiting for that day for months, but now I can't make a decision right away. I really wanted to have a wedding, but my family wants to be with my cousin. What should I do?
something similar happened in our family. They said we are postponing my cousin's wedding due to my uncle's cancer diagnosis, but in the end, it dragged on for a year. Things got really complicated. I think you should talk about a definite date; otherwise, the family can always find something to complain about.
How serious is your cousin's illness? I mean, will the treatment process take a long time?
@iki_dakika they said the treatment will be tough. The family is very anxious, that's why they don't want the wedding to happen now.
@camkenari I think you're not right about this specific date issue. When it comes to a serious illness, people stop making plans. I believe even weddings seem less important to them.
Honestly, this is somewhat of a cultural issue. Collective events like wedding postponements greatly impact family dynamics. Everyone's sensitive side is different. I think if you sit down and talk with your family and express how being caught in the middle affects you, you can come to a healthier decision. However, getting guidance from a therapist would also be a good idea.
I think you should have the wedding.
@pazardandondum are you serious? Is it something to be discussed when the family is already in pain? Should I even think about having my wedding?
this title is a very personal topic anyway. everyone is saying 'in my opinion' but I think you shouldn't hurt the family more in the long run 😅
They said the treatment would be tough, so did they specifically ask you for anything to support the family during this process? I mean, aside from postponing the wedding, do you have any responsibilities you need to take on? In some cases, non-wedding matters can create an even bigger crisis.
