So girls, I accidentally opened an old message thread on his phone, and I couldnât help but read it. A lot has happened, quite intimate conversations and all. Now Iâm really torn inside, should I bring this up with him or just leave it alone? What would you do if you were in my place?
Honestly, I did something like that once too. I read the messages with his ex-girlfriend. Then I couldnât hold back and said, âWhy are you bringing this up?â The relationship got pretty tense. But I was feeling uncomfortable, and if I hadnât said anything, it would have grown inside me. I think you should talk about it, but approach the topic calmly.
I think you shouldnât speak at all. If you ask why, itâs like interfering in your private life. There was no need to snoop through the phone anyway; now how are you going to explain what youâve read? Donât put yourself in an unjust position while trying to be honest 
Some of the old messages may actually have been written before the relationship started. It could also be just a simple friendship chat. Itâs important to think calmly, as the other person is likely to see this from a defensive position. If they are feeling very hurt, you might try sharing your own feelings instead of placing blame as you talk.
I also want to add this: the messages are not very old. Theyâre from a few months ago. But still, I havenât seen anything clear, meaning thereâs nothing that could jeopardize our relationship. But I just canât seem to get it out of my mind.
Youâre saying the messages are from a few months ago now, which is a different situation. If I were you, I would definitely talk about it. Because a few months ago means it was while you were in a relationship. But donât go in with direct questions; explain it gently like, âI just want to ask something.â If the explanation makes sense, donât let it drag on.