We only have a few weeks left until our wedding, but my spouse is still not doing any preparations. While everyone else is excited, they keep watching television or hanging out with friends. This really hurts me; what should I do? I'm struggling to get over this situation on my own, but everything being on my shoulders is wearing me down.
We literally share the same struggle. During our wedding time, my husband was like, 'Come on, it's going to be fine, everything will work out' while watching football. They make it feel like no one really cares about the woman 🥲
Does your spouse usually act like this, or is it just because of the wedding that they seem uninterested? I think it might be a matter of personality.
@kahvebitmeden is actually quite interested in a personal sense, a very considerate candidate for a partner outside of this wedding issue. But when it comes to this matter, I get a bit irritated.
It seems a bit exaggerated to me. I mean, not everyone has to get excited in the same way. The event means something different for each person. 🙄
This is a dynamic that couples often experience in wedding planning. According to various studies, the planning burden typically falls on women due to men's different perceptions of social pressure and role expectations. To share this burden, you might try giving them specific tasks.
@yazipsildim thinking differently is one thing, completely disconnecting is another. after all, it's something that you have to take some responsibility for 🤦♀️
Is there anything else besides these details? For example, you said you were watching TV, but did you never try to talk directly?
I think you should sit down and talk. There's no need to drag it out.
Could someone from his family have gotten involved and said something like "leave it to us, we’ll handle it"? Some types tend to hit the brakes automatically when a family member steps in. I’d say it’s worth checking.
