I’ve noticed since last week that my spouse starts fiddling with their phone as soon as they get home, without even looking at me. They don’t even say hello, they just head straight to the room. I can’t help but wonder if something’s going on at work or if they’re distancing themselves from me. They never used to act like this. If I talk to them, will I come off as sensitive?
something similar had happened in our house too; I asked my wife why it was so quiet, and it turns out she was bored with the same routine all the time. maybe it’s time to change something.
Has this situation just started, how was it when you got home before for example?
@iki_dakika used to always hug me when coming home, now they can’t seem to let go of their phone. I don’t know if they’re forgetting me or what.
@camkenari it’s easy to say things like that are just routine, but what if there really is a problem sometimes? It’s hard to understand without talking to them.
If there is a serious introspective state, you need to talk about it openly. Let the silence not grow any more. But be careful not to start accusatorily; approach it by saying ‘I was curious.’
The topic was brought up because he’s not even saying hello, I think the communication problem is quite obvious. We can’t justify being nonchalant about the phone as a right to personal space.
you can’t solve it without talking.