My spouse made a joke by describing a private matter

I think this is a serious violation of boundaries. Even as a joke, sharing someone's private matters is not right. Be straightforward with them about how much this has bothered you; they should know.

We can't say for sure that they always explain it, but if they've explained it once, you might think, why not explain other things too? If it bothers you, I think it's necessary to set a boundary.

I had the same thing happen to me, but with my ex. He was having a lot of fun in a group setting, then he talked about something that was between us. I didn’t say anything at that moment, but later I couldn’t stop thinking about it. Try talking about it, but if it started once, who knows what else there might be.

Was this the first time this happened, or has it happened to you before? If they're constantly talking about something, that's more concerning; it's something to be aware of. 🫠

@makarnaoncesi this isn't actually the first time. There have been a few instances like this before, but none were as special as this. That's why I freaked out this time.

@camkenari don't be so blunt. There could be a dynamic between the two, maybe they are talking because he trusts his partner. Not everything has to mean boundary violation 🙄

In my family, this kind of stuff would totally be a big deal. There's this rule like, "don't talk about anything personal." If he does it again and the older siblings hear about it, they'll totally freak out.

They brushed it off as a joke, but I think it was also wrong for you to stay silent. If you had said something directly there, it would have been resolved faster. Some people think, 'they don't mind anyway' as long as you don't speak up 😂