Yesterday, I saw my wife in a story posted by one of her coworkers; she seemed to be laughing and having a good time, but she had told me she was tired when she got home from work that day. Even more strangely, she hasn’t told me anything about it. She has never shared moments like that in a photo with me. Should I ask her about it and sound like someone who’s complaining, or should I wait and let her explain it on her own? Is this normal, or am I being too sensitive?
I’ve experienced something like this too. My ex-girlfriend always looked like she was having fun in her stories, but she would tell me during those times that ‘work is really stressful’ and stuff. Later, I talked about it, and it turns out they were calling it ‘insignificant detail’ for me. But I think there’s a problem here. Why doesn’t she feel the need to share?
How long has it been like this, or is it the first time you’ve noticed? Is it that something is always being told, or is it just in relation to this specific event?
@kahvebitmeden actually is sometimes quiet already, but the fact that he doesn’t share it while having fun outside is something I just realized. It could have happened before too, maybe.
@biseydiycem but does everyone have to narrate every moment? maybe someone saw something light, there’s no need to exaggerate. I mean, we shouldn’t look at everything as if it’s a problem.
“Is it ‘normal’?” is a question related to personal expectations. But I think the real question is this: what does it feel like not to share moments of enjoyment outside with a partner? If there is no trust, then I believe an open question is inevitable. But proceed calmly while talking; it’s important not to break the trust.
I don’t understand what there is to blow out of proportion. You’re making a big deal out of a story you saw? Just talk about it once and move on. If this happens all the time, then there’s a problem there, but what are you trying to take away from this situation?
This is unacceptable, I would have asked directly.
Maybe they’re acting like this so they don’t give away that they had fun. I mean, if they said, “That day was tough, but then I pulled myself together,” it would somehow sound more normal. Why do you think they might be hiding it?
Maybe they see those moments as their own special space. They might not want to share everything, and it doesn’t necessarily have to be a red flag. But if it bothers you, can you relieve your mind without asking? I think the main issue is how much you are overthinking this situation.