My spouse keeps their phone on silent all the time, am I thinking about this the wrong way?

I think you should sit down with him in a calm environment and talk before pushing further. Instead of accusing him directly by saying "Why do you keep your phone on silent?", ask, "I've noticed you might be missing your messages; wouldn’t it be difficult for you to keep going like this?" Gauge his reaction and pay attention to the details regarding his work.

Let me speak frankly now, most men try to relax their minds by putting their phones on silent amidst work and responsibilities, but if this habit has started suddenly, as you said, he might be focusing on something. Without making direct accusations, give it some time. Don't cause unnecessary anxiety.

I noticed that my wife kept her phone on silent for a while; it turns out she was constantly getting notifications because of group chats. At first, I pressed her about it a lot, but then I realized I was wrong. Instead of doubting, try to understand what the issue is, because these kinds of things can escalate.

In my surroundings, things like this usually lead to the whole 'hiding the phone' discussion, but I think you shouldn't blow it out of proportion right away. It might just be because of his busyness. Still, if it feels weird, you can ask him gradually, but if you confront him directly, I think it could backfire.

Look, my daughter, if someone has a worm in their heart, they cannot find peace. But don’t overthink and torture yourself by attributing meaning to every move. Share your feelings openly, saying, 'I feel anxious when you silence your phone.' In marriage, you shouldn't bottle up your problems.

So how did you realize you were being quiet? Do you often seem like you're constantly checking your phone? Maybe you've been fixating on the details a bit too much, and that's why they might have started doing this. Assess your own attitude before making a movie in your head.

What else changed in your life during the period you mentioned a month ago? A new position at work, talking more with someone, or is it just a habit? A problem is solved from where it started. Have you ever had such a problem between you before?

In fact, it's become quite common for those who use their phones particularly for work to put them on silent. For example, I keep mine on silent all the time because I'm tired of group notifications. When it's on silent, it doesn't immediately imply cheating or hiding something 😮‍💨