I’m seriously in shock, girls. Yesterday, I accidentally saw a bank message that came to my husband’s phone, and it turns out he’s secretly taken out a loan of fifty thousand lira from us! He’s been paying it back every month, yet he kept saying we don’t have enough money. He won’t even say where the money is going. We fought, and he left the house. What should I do now? Is this a reason for divorce? I honestly feel like there’s no trust left, and I’m really hurt.
I’ve been through the same thing. I didn’t have exactly fifty thousand, but a similar amount came up. They were always saying they didn’t have enough money, but it turns out they were sending it to their family. So if they left that house, they’re probably just running away from guilt anyway. 
So, did that bank message mention anything about the number of installments for the loan, like how long they’ve been paying it? Do you have any guesses? And also, do you know where they went after leaving that house? Did they maybe go to their family or something? 