I’ve had obsessions with my own nose for years, and I’m always concerned about the angles in the photos I take. But the main issue is this: my partner is very against aesthetic procedures and believes that everything natural is more beautiful. Despite that, should I go through with it or should I give it up to avoid risking my relationship? What would you do in this situation?
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9I think if your partner is so opposed to aesthetics, there might be something else going on behind it. I mean, could it be that they don’t want you to gain confidence? Otherwise, why would they be so bothered by you changing something like your nose? Honestly, I think it’s necessary to question this.
I understand the issue of choosing angles in photo shoots so well. I literally got sick of taking pictures for a while just by saying ‘always the right profile.’ If it’s something that bothers you this much, your partner should understand, after all, you’re not living with this feeling all the time.
If I were you, I would just go ahead and do it without worrying about what my partner would think. Man, everyone is doing this on social media now; ask anyone and they’ll tell you they have a little touch-up done. If it makes you feel more comfortable, why not? You don’t owe anyone an explanation.
Look, my daughter, you need to think carefully before making decisions about these aesthetic procedures. But since you’re feeling so uneasy and your boyfriend doesn’t understand, have a serious talk with him. If my daughter was this uncomfortable with her nose and he wasn’t being supportive, I’d suggest you reconsider that boyfriend.
I had the same thing, I was really uncomfortable with my nose for years. My partner didn’t want it at first, but in the end, it’s my face. I clearly said, ‘I’m not talking to you, I’m talking about the reflection in the mirror.’ After the surgery, when they saw me looking happier, they softened up anyway.
But we don’t really look positively on such things around here. Even families immediately ask, ‘Why do you need that?’ The fact that your partner loves you naturally is actually a big plus, but if you’re willing to attract too much attention in society, that’s up to you.
Thinking psychologically, if an obsession with appearance affects daily life this much, it might be harming your self-confidence and social relationships. Aesthetic choices are personal, but I recommend thoroughly evaluating the reasons behind them. If you feel like you are being pressured, that wouldn’t be a healthy relationship anyway.
Actually, my girlfriend isn’t a bad person at all, but she idealizes what is natural too much. She always says things like “people are beautiful as they are.” On one hand, she says nature created me this way, but sometimes it’s even hard to look at myself in the mirror.
No matter what your partner says, this is your body and your decision. You don’t have to look natural; just do what you want.