Can a person be this messy in the kitchen and only wash their own plates and bowls? They leave everything else like it doesn't exist. At first, I thought it was just absentmindedness, but it's clearly a habit now. If I say something, will it cause a fight? If I stay silent, will I explode? I don't know.
I think this is really a character issue. Some people see even washing their own dishes as torture, while others are particular about shared responsibilities. But your roommate’s remark "You can’t possibly wash my plate" seems a bit defensive; I think they’re aware of the situation but have accepted it. I suggest trying to talk to them sweetly; it might not lead to an argument right away.
But did you really never say anything? You thought it was just absent-mindedness, okay, but do you want to keep going with this habit? Or do you want to sit down and sort it out properly? By the way, do they have other strange habits like this?
@beden_savunucu actually doesn't have any other noticeable traits, but leaving the kitchen a mess drives me crazy. Sometimes we cook together, but when it comes to the dishes, he's nowhere to be found. I feel like I'm duty-bound to do it.
@zevk_goreceli it can be solved with sweet words but I think you shouldn't be too soft. Once you do these things, it falls on you, and then you’ll always have to clean up. It becomes a routine like this. Clearly state that everyone here will live under the same rules 🥲
The dishwashing issue is actually a basic communication problem. If you share a common living space, there shouldn't be an emotional or personal side to it. You might try preparing a cleaning schedule and taking turns. If you focus on a common solution rather than individual ones while discussing, it will prevent conflicts.
