My roommate and I share the same bathroom. But they really don’t pay much attention to hygiene. They leave used pads lying around, and it really bothers me. I gently mentioned it a couple of times, but it’s still the same. I’m not sure what to do. Should I confront them directly?
This topic really affects me, honestly. In university, I shared a bathroom with a friend for a while. I mentioned hygiene, sensitivity, and said a couple of things, but it felt like he thought I was judging him. I couldn’t push it any further for my own sake because being misunderstood really breaks me down. Maybe you come across that way to him too? People sometimes get hurt or embarrassed.
@ozguven_kirilgan I think you are thinking incorrectly. There is a boundary here, and that boundary has been crossed. Yes, the female body is natural, but no one has the right to invade someone else’s private space. Such things should not be done in shared areas of the house. Respect is required.
It’s been a minute, but does this happen all the time or is it skipped occasionally? If it’s something that happens consistently, there could be another motive behind it; this situation doesn’t seem very normal to me 
@dedikoducu actually does it all the time, it was there in the beginning too, but it wasn’t at a level that would be so disturbing. Now it seems like they are openly letting it go. They said something like ‘My house, my rules’ the other day.
@soran then I’m asking you now, why didn’t you solve this from the beginning? If you had reacted when you first saw it, you wouldn’t have let it get to this point. It was clear that this would become chronic. Now it feels a bit late. First, reflect on your own communication style, I think.
The lines are very clear, friends. If there’s someone else at home, there should be shared living rules. Hygiene is something that can be discussed; you can’t cause discomfort under the guise of privacy. Consent, which we talk about, shouldn’t just exist in relationships, but also in everyday behaviors. The person involved has the right to feel uncomfortable.
@feminist I get that, but how far does the sensitivity go? You also need some family etiquette in these matters. The home is sacred. In the past, such disgraceful things didn’t happen. Even if it’s among women, you have to be careful; living together should be like family.
But I say this as a man, I’ve also come across such hygiene discussions in our home. The issue completely stems from habits, in my opinion. That person was raised that way, just as you were raised. You need to speak directly and openly; there are many people who don’t understand vague remarks.