My roommate has a routine where they never wake up on time in the mornings. Everything from tidying up to breakfast falls on me. Is it normal to be this careless, or am I the one being too uptight? Honestly, I don’t think talking about it would change anything. Have you had similar experiences? How did you handle it?
I experienced the same thing, I swear I was heading for a nervous breakdown. Every morning I would wake up to find a chaos in the kitchen, and it always fell to me to clean up. I talked about it but there was no response, so we ended up making a written schedule. It stated who would clean and who would cook on which days. Very simple but it really worked.
I understand that the dizziness you feel when you wake up can be quite paralyzing, but if it's just a constant excuse, it can wear a person out. If you can't get up, then you should prepare the night before, for example, so that there isn't a pile-up. It feels disrespectful to put all this responsibility on someone else.
I think you should sit down and talk openly. Be clear like, 'Look, we live in the same house, there needs to be a division of chores, I can't continue like this.' As a suggestion, you can also download an app that sets an alarm for the departure time and make it a requirement. I mean, make sure to come up with a solution together.
It honestly felt a bit too much for me. I mean, saying I'm not a morning person isn't always just an excuse; it's a biological routine matter. Maybe you're putting too much pressure on yourself; not everything has to be done instantly.
Honestly, living regularly benefits not just the home, but the individual as well. If this mental burden is always on you, it's natural to feel worn out. When combined with a lack of empathy, the situation becomes even more difficult. In such matters, perhaps setting a routine or creating a calendar can help reduce stress. Also, if it's a very abnormal situation, consulting a family therapist might be a good idea.
Let me add this, I've actually talked about it repeatedly. He says things like, 'I can't do anything when I wake up in the morning, I'll get organized after breakfast.' But even in this situation, everything piles up on me. Even if we say I'm tired in the morning, there is no way to make up for it when I return in the evening.
This is completely exploitation of labor. If someone says they won't do something in the morning, they can take on a few tasks in the evening; it's that simple. The order of the house doesn't depend on a single person's shoulders. This isn't just about your cleanliness/tidiness issue; it's something that the necessity of sharing common space requires. You need to set boundaries.
