There's always talk about babies at home. Every time my aunt comes over, saying, 'let's see when you're going to get pregnant,' it really gets to me. My spouse doesn't seem to care much about it, but I don't feel ready right now. What should I do? How does family pressure affect you?
I've been in a similar situation. My sister was putting pressure on me too, but I clearly said, 'I don't want to, I'm not ready.' She pouted for a while, but it passed. I think you should be clear about it.
the title is really exaggerated, what is she doing to you, forcing you? I don't get it at all.
How old are you and do you have no plans at all to have children, or are you just looking to postpone it? Please explain a bit more 🫣
@uykuarasi I'm actually not completely against it, but right now I want to focus on my career. I told my spouse about it, and they said it’s no problem for them, but this pressure is exhausting me.
@aklimkaldi I think you’re not being honest. If you’re not ready, no one can force you. You say you told your spouse, but was it really a serious conversation?
Pregnancy should be entirely your decision. Family elders often see the issue of children as a duty. Rather than succumbing to pressure, clearly define your boundaries. If necessary, your partner should offer support.
Don't these aunts have anything else to do?
The intentions of adults are not bad, but sometimes they can overstep their bounds. If your partner took a clearer stance on this, wouldn't it lessen the aunt's influence? Because it's clear that they haven't really taken on the responsibility of defending you.
