I'm only 9 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend said he doesn't want this baby. My mind is really confused, honestly, I don't know what to do. On one hand, I have my own desires, and on the other hand, I feel the pressure from his family. What path should I take to make a decision, or do you think I should make this decision on my own?
I experienced something similar too. When I was 7 weeks pregnant, my partner clearly said that he didn't want it, and I felt very alone. Honestly, I told my family directly at that time, and their perspective helped me gather myself. Maybe instead of making a decision all by yourself, you could consider confiding in a family elder.
I felt my situation clearly because 9 weeks is a somewhat critical period. I also had a detailed conversation with my partner in such a situation, trying to understand her fears. It's hard to reach a common ground, but if not, consider how much you really want this child. Once your own feelings become clearer, it becomes easier.
But honestly, shouldn't your partner have made it clear from the beginning that they didn't want this? How right is it for them to behave this way while making a decision alone? Didn't you ever discuss how to handle such a situation beforehand? Isn't this a bit of an unplanned issue?
In these situations, both parties are usually feeling fear and panic, making it hard to think clearly. Your partner saying "I don't want to" is just one point of the issue. Your physical and emotional health is important too. Have you tried talking to a counselor or psychologist? They can help you analyze the situation more easily without judgment.
I want to add that we haven't experienced such a serious situation in our relationship before; honestly, his reaction surprised me a lot. He says he fears his family, and since my family doesn't know, I can't consult anyone. Feeling lonely also makes it difficult for me to make a decision.
The love aspect seems a bit in the background here. I think this whole thing is fundamentally problematic. If they're someone who fears family pressure, why did they come this far with you? Also, having such a confused mindset could lead to bigger problems in the future. I mean, sorry to say, but the foundation of the relationship looks a bit shaky.
