I'm hiding my irregular periods because of my fear of the gynecologist; am I doing the right thing?

I experienced the same thing; it was literally like a nightmare. My period was occurring every 3-4 months and it was very painful. The idea of going to the doctor was really scary for me back then, especially the examination part. But eventually, we started with a blood test, and it took me a while to gather the courage for the ultrasound. So, you don't have to jump straight into that stage you're afraid of; maybe you can progress with a blood test.

When I was in college, I stopped going to the doctor because of the same fear; I couldn't even explain it properly to my mom. My period sometimes lasted 15 days, and sometimes it didn't come at all. I realized it wasn't so bad when I went with a friend. You might consider taking someone with you.

It's okay to be scared now, but let me tell you, the saying that things will get better over time feels a bit like an excuse. For example, if your mom says 'don't let anything happen,' it means she's worried too. What will happen if you keep postponing like this throughout your life? My opinion is that it's like running away from responsibility.

Irregular periods can actually be caused by many things: hormonal imbalances, polycystic ovary syndrome, stress-related temporary conditions, etc. I understand your fear of gynecological examinations, but conditions that are not regularly monitored can sometimes lead to more problems. You can visit a doctor who provides comprehensive information during your first visit and only plans an ultrasound. They will proceed step by step without overwhelming you.

Thank you all, it really felt good to see different perspectives. As an update, let me add this: I don't actually experience much pain but sometimes I panic when I haven't had my period for 40-50 days. Even the testing part scares me. I thought about going with my mom, but I find that embarrassing too.

It didn't happen to me, but a very close friend of mine didn't go for years due to fear of childbirth; in the end, an ultrasound revealed a cyst. It was resolved with simple treatment, but if she had gone earlier, it might have been resolved in a shorter time. Even starting with an ultrasound instead of a direct examination could be a relief.

I just noticed this: Is it harder for you to talk to your mom than to go for the check-up? Sometimes the real problem is a lack of communication. Maybe if you talk about this more openly with your mom, you'll feel more at ease. It's also interesting that your mom keeps saying, 'I hope nothing comes up.' Is she feeling something too?

To be clear, menstrual delays of 40-50 days can be a sign of an endocrine disorder. It might just be a simple hormonal imbalance from within, but in these cases, a regular gynecologist usually refers you to an endocrinologist if necessary. These procedures are not as daunting as they seem, and if resolved in time, you can feel comfortable moving forward.