The other day, I went grocery shopping with my cousin. When the pads came up at the checkout, the guy in front of me mumbled something and said, “Be a little careful when buying these.” I literally felt hot water pouring over my head. But at that moment, I couldn’t respond, and my cousin didn’t understand either. I explained it to her outside, and she wanted to go back and argue. What do you think one should do in situations like this? Are people still this comfortable talking about such things?
Are things like this still happening? The other day I was buying pads at the pharmacy and the guy turned around and said, ‘Why are you buying so many?’ I mean, I told him it’s embarrassing, and they even give unsolicited advice without shame. But if I were you, instead of responding in my head, I’d wait outside and explain it nicely. You know, we can’t fix everything right then and there; sometimes, people get used to things over time.
So, can I ask something? Did the cashier say anything? I thought maybe if he heard it, he might have commented on it.
@student the cashier didn’t react at all. In fact, I was stunned at that moment too. My cousin was nice enough to carry on with the situation, but I’m still wondering if it was the right move.
@mesafe_emekci I don’t think what you said is a solution either. There’s no guarantee that we can sort everything out by just talking. There needs to be a bit of privacy, you know, because people will react, as we all influence each other in society. When things are so open and clear, it can lead to discussions.
I think in this situation, turning directly to that person would be the best option. Because they are taking advantage of your embarrassment or they think they aren’t questioning you. In short, it would be best to turn around and say, ‘This is my personal matter; it doesn’t concern you.’ Also, keep in mind that cashiers usually pay more attention to the customer in such complaints.
I don’t know if it’s weird to me, but saying “isn’t there anything more discreet?” is just ridiculous. Which store sells these pads anyway? They’re all in boxes. What exactly is bothering the guy? It feels like a situation where he’s just stirring up an empty argument.
I can’t say that nobody talked to me when it came to me because old-fashioned people were more respectful. But I think the real issue here is that young people are a bit indifferent. If someone turned around and said, ‘Why are you speaking like that, sir?’, nobody would say anything anyway. Or there would be a heavy silence in a cashiered market; courage is needed for this.