My sister-in-law came over yesterday to hang out, and during the conversation, it eventually turned to the wedding gold. She asked, ‘Is all the gold you received still in place?’ I didn’t quite get what she was implying, but I was genuinely uncomfortable. My husband didn’t even try to ease the situation. Are they not going to forget about the gold issue?
Well, I once had a similar experience with my mother-in-law; she kept asking about the gold for a while. She straightforwardly asked, ‘Why are you selling them, are you in a bad situation?’ It really hurt, but my husband warned them later. Talk to your spouse, they should set their own family straight.
So what did your spouse do? Did they not interfere at all? It’s really strange, I mean, because it’s a sensitive issue after all.
@melike33 my spouse just stayed silent, didn’t get involved at all. We didn’t talk about it later either.
Gold is everyone’s concern anyway. Why are you taking it so personally? I think their curiosity is normal, after all, the things they’re wearing also have their own contribution. What would change if your spouse intervened? 
These kinds of issues stem from families meddling too much in private matters. I understand your curiosity in a calm tone, but this is something that should be between us. If you extend it too far, everyone thinks they have a say 
@berkay38 not everyone can have the same concerns. That’s a personal matter, I don’t understand why mothers and sisters are still questioning it. Are people saying they’ll ask about it when they wear gold?
So, is the issue here about hiding gold or spending it? I mean, if you exchanged your gold for something and we’re discussing whether it should be shared with your spouse’s family or not, you should have weighed this out in the beginning. Otherwise, it just turns into an interrogation.
It’s already hurtful that your sister-in-law even asks this question while sitting there. Is it easy for someone to get married? They come, sit down as if everything is fine. Respect is needed above all else; effort has been put into this 