My cousin found a new job and now keeps talking to me about work. Last week at the family dinner, he said, 'I've been working for years, now I'm supporting the family.' I'm extremely uncomfortable being at home. I feel bad; I'm ashamed of myself and my family. What do you think I can do to find a way out?
I had a similar situation as well. When my cousin started working, everyone in the family kept saying, 'Why don't you take him as an example?' After he got tired of it, I also started working, even if it was just a little. I felt a lot of relief, but work is still a bit of a chore.
Do you live in the same house as your cousin? With all this work stuff going on, it seems like you see each other all the time 😬
@pazardandondum we're not living in the same house, but he's constantly talking about work through family dinners, WhatsApp, etc. My parents also praise him.
@yaziksorular getting a job due to external pressure isn't healthy either. Of course, everyone has to start somewhere, but how far can it go like this?
Honestly, we are in a tough period when it comes to finding a job. But think it through—list what you love and your skills. Then, you can start with small jobs and gain a couple of experiences. At least, even if it's not the job you want, you won't be stagnant.
I wish these "my cousin found a job, I'm still stuck" headlines would just stop. Everyone's life is different; I find these comparisons really absurd.
It's a matter of self-confidence. Find a job and get started. The rest will follow.
Isn't it a bit exaggerated for that cousin to always be talking about work? At the very least, one should show respect for the other person's situation. Sure, your parents are praising you, but don't they ever ask what you're doing or what you want?
Hey, what happens when your cousin talks about their job? It's not going to add anything to you, just bring you down. Why are you taking it so seriously when they explain it?
Are you competing with your cousin or with your parents? Because explaining work is one thing, but if your parents' praise affects you this much, it seems like there’s another issue at play. Think about that side.
