My cousin misunderstood my girlfriend to the whole family!

I think you shouldn't just delete your cousin, but keep your distance. If they talked like this because of a weekend plan, they'll probably throw you under the bus in other situations too. It's safer to talk to friends, family problems are a different story 😂

My family is also great at neighborhood pressure. The best thing is to clearly explain everything to them and state the boundaries of your relationship with your partner. Be straightforward with your cousin too, make it clear that your intentions are not good.

You blame your cousin, but don't you have a share in this too? Why are you plotting something in secret? These kinds of things should be out in the open; they shouldn't be hidden from family. Before blaming your cousin, think about these things 🙂

There are two situations here: 1. Your cousin's sincerity is questioned, but if they say, 'I was thinking of your well-being,' they may really have a distorted perception. 2. Try to have a calm one-on-one conversation with your family to cope with neighborhood pressure. If necessary, seek help from a family counselor.

I need to add this: I didn't say anything bad about my girlfriend to my cousin. I just said, "Don't let it be obvious to my parents," so she wouldn't push too much while planning. But it seems like she exaggerated the situation because she doesn't like it 🙄

Let's be clear now. What you do with your partner is your private matter, but how is your cousin exploiting that? They claimed you're being taken advantage of, but what exactly are they implying? As long as you can't be open about it, the rumors others derive will increase.

Girl, you need to communicate openly with your family from the start. You've trusted your cousin too much; things like this can be a disaster in a family. If my daughter did this, I would first sit down and have a proper talk, asking 'who are you seeing?'.

I think the cousin exaggerated the situation while talking, because in order to comment that her boyfriend is "being abused," she either wanted to draw a lot of reactions or she hates you. For instance, even a guy would be shocked to hear this; it's a very harsh accusation.

But there seems to be something else going on here. I mean, why would your cousin create something like this in particular? Maybe they really don’t love their partner, or they might know something else about them and are trying to imply it.