I was very happy because I got engaged and I posted a photo of my ring on my story. After a while, my cousin wrote something like, 'My mom didn't really like this brand, we were expecting something better.' It seriously ruined the happiness of that moment. Why do you think people blow up such unnecessary things? Or am I being too sensitive? But it feels like there’s always pressure because of my family.
I don't think it's something to be so complicated about. Marriage is ultimately between two people; when the family gets involved, it just creates unnecessary stress. You can't please everyone; there will always be an excuse, whether it's a ring or a dowry or something else. Don't let it get you down.
Why didn't you turn around and say something after that comment, for example? You need to defend yourself, you say you're that happy. If they had just replied directly, the matter would have been closed 😂
@izzeddin65 that's why I stayed quiet saying "it would be shameful"... I always do this to avoid tension within the family, but I'm tired of it now.
@elifimsi are you serious right now? These things don't just happen between two people. Your family will support you, there's social acceptance and all that. The ring, the jewelry is important, you know. If your friend asking doesn't realize this, they might face issues later on 😳
The topic of rings actually seems like a detail to discuss at first. The symbols that make people happy in marriages differ. The issue is that, if a person is unhappy, they can reflect that unhappiness in a way that overshadows someone else's happy moment instead of resolving it internally. If you learn to be a bit more distant, you can handle situations with a cooler head.
It happened to me, even during the engagement, they said, 'Are so many gold pieces going to be put on?' Then I kept quiet, but after the wedding, I told my friends, 'We'll talk about this later' and didn't care anymore. Sometimes silence itches them in certain places.
You wore a ring, and the person said 'my mom didn't like it,' what an irrelevant subject this is. Besides, how much was your budget anyway, why was there so much 'dowry research' done at the engagement? Speak frankly, what did you say??
@sevgifull you mentioned societal acceptance and I laughed a bit. Forget about that, if two people decide, the rest is just fluff. Let's focus on our relationship in our own minds.
