Recently, my friends have been causing more stress than my family's expectations. Everyone keeps expecting something from me, and it's driving me insane. I don’t want to disappoint my family, but my friends are also in a tough spot. How should I balance this situation?
I've experienced this myself as well. When your friends are always expecting something from you, you end up tearing yourself apart, and your family on the other hand is like, 'Why are you exhausting yourself?' You're literally being crushed in between.
Friend pressure is one thing, but family should always come first, in my opinion. No one should take offense, but it's clear who has been with you throughout your life; it's wrong to compromise too much for friends 🫠
@kahvebitmeden yours is pretty cliché too. family is always by your side, we get it. but friends can really be essential, especially someone your age who understands what you’re going through.
What you need to do here is clear: learn to say no to someone. Speak openly and say something like, 'I'm focused on these tasks right now, and I could use some support.' Otherwise, if you try to please both sides, nervous breakdowns are inevitable.
What do your friends expect from you, for example? Is it study notes, time, or money? If you give a bit more detail, we can understand the expectations more clearly.
@pazardandondum they generally expect time and help from me, and also to figure some things out. But when my family says 'don't tire yourself out', I get really confused 🫠
@aklimkaldi by the way, I don't think the "don't exhaust yourself" advice coming from family is very well-intentioned; it feels a bit manipulative to me. I think you should consider how much distance you need to keep from whom in order to not wear yourself out.
Your friends need to learn to stop interrupting. Otherwise, it will always be like this.
Everyone really has high expectations of you, it's like you've pulled it off 🙂
