There is one month left until my wedding, I chose my wedding dress months ago and my fiancé liked it as well. When I came out of the fitting yesterday, my future mother-in-law showed me other models in the car and said this one has an open neckline, people will talk on our side. My fiancé then suggested adding a bit of tulle to keep my mom from being upset. My own mom also said don’t ruin the taste, it’s just for one day, but honestly, it feels like the issue is not just about the tulle. Now I’m thinking if I stay silent, will they interfere in everything in the marriage too? But I don’t want to cause a scene when it’s so close.
my mother-in-law used to do things like this at the engagement. I always replied with a smile, but inside I was really annoyed, you know? Then after getting married, she got used to not being able to have her way anymore. I don’t think this is a one-time thing.
When your fiancé’s mother says something, does she take sides or does she also defend you on other issues?
@soncaykaldi generally stands more in the middle, I can say it’s the first time it has been so openly on her mother’s side.
@makarnaoncesi I disagree. I think as you keep giving in, you’re losing control. Right now you’re not saying anything, but then it turns into talking about kids, and it will interfere with the things at home. You need to be clear from the beginning.
I don’t understand why it upset me so much about a curtain issue, but it will definitely turn into a fight between mothers. I hope it doesn’t escalate, but the situation is definitely not minor.
I think for now, you could take a step back from focusing on clothing details, but analyze their gaze. Will this person constantly intervene, or is it situational? You should plan the marriage considering the first scenario.
It’s your own wedding, don’t let others talk.