My fiancée messaged his ex three weeks before the wedding. I was completely shocked when I found out; it’s making me think a lot about this situation. While preparing for the wedding, his connection to his past confused me. Is this normal?
I experienced the same thing. Before the wedding, I found out you sent a message, and I thought my world was collapsing. Then I directly asked why you wrote, but you didn't even give a satisfying answer. I canceled the wedding. Once trust is shaken, it's hard to recover.
Why did he message his ex-girlfriend, though? Were you able to find out? Was it out of curiosity or was there another issue?
I don't know why I didn't ask @kahvebitmeden. But I learned that message from a friend, and it was just a casual "Hey, how are you?" type of message. Still seemed really silly to me 🙄
@aklimkaldi are you sure your only message was 'what's up, how are you'? Maybe your friend hasn't told you the whole story. Just ask your fiancée directly; otherwise, you might just end up overthinking it.
If you've heard about something like this, ask your fiancé outright. You really need to talk; otherwise, this suspicion will settle in your mind. I think you shouldn't leave it unclear before the wedding.
I'm sorry, but since this is such a sensitive period of your engagement, why even bother writing about the past relationships? I confront things directly. And I won’t let go until the wedding. 😳
@hatconene is very right, I think this job doesn't end with just a 'what's up, how are you'. The truth may be different, don't let go of this issue.
focus on the topic. I think you should ask without pressuring your fiancée 🤔
Writing to an ex is already a strange thing, but learning about it from a friend is even weirder. Why did your fiancé hide this? Even if it was just "Hey, how are you?" you should have been informed, and I think the real issue here is honesty. 😬
Hey, how are you? Why would someone who writes that hide something from a friend? Maybe your fiancé wrote something else, but didn't want you to hear this part. There's a high possibility that information learned from a friend is incomplete or altered. You need to hear it directly from your fiancé.
