My fiancée and I have started preparing for the wedding, but things got complicated when it came to the issue of the gifts. I’m thinking of spending some of the gold with support from my family for the wedding, but she wants everything to remain on her side. It feels like she doesn’t trust me at all, but maybe I’m being too sensitive? Do you think these kinds of things are normal? How can we resolve this?
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5So why is your fiancé so sensitive about this? Have you ever asked them openly? Has something similar happened in their family before, for example? Sometimes events from the past greatly influence a person’s thoughts.
So now the issue of gold is a serious matter; the bride’s side is already sensitive about this issue. But in the end, one might think those jewelry pieces could also be used to cover wedding expenses together. It’s not normal in our culture for it to always stay with her, as your fiancé said. How would you explain this to her?
Now, these types of conflicts generally develop over economic security. The question of ‘who will keep the jewelry’ is actually a symbol, reflecting more of a discussion about ‘who will have control.’ If you make a professional budget plan early on, you can prevent these kinds of insecurities. Perhaps you could seek help from an expert on this matter.
I noticed something; I think it’s more about control issues than insecurity for them. Because it’s not just about the jewelry, they are overly reserved on other topics as well. I’m not sure if we should talk as a family, but solving it alone seems difficult.
It seems to me that there’s another situation here. For example, has your fiancé’s family said anything about this? Or could it be that your fiancé doesn’t want too much support from the family? I mean, it doesn’t just seem to be about frugality; I think you should dig a little deeper.