Before heading to my psychologist today, I unexpectedly ran into my ex at a nearby café. We only made brief eye contact, but I can honestly say the discomfort lingered throughout the day. I’m unsure whether I should bring this encounter up in therapy. After all, it’s a very personal detail, but its impact on me hasn’t faded. Do you think it’s necessary to discuss things like this in therapy?
I just say these kinds of things directly; isn't therapy the place to talk about them? Instead of letting them spin around in your head, just explain it and move on.
so why exactly did this encounter bother you so much? is it something emotional, or is it that you don't know how to behave?
@cokdaseyapma I guess I didn’t want to meet, and it felt strange since it was unexpected. But I still can’t say anything definite 😬
@makarnaoncesi it's not that easy, you know. Choosing what to talk about in therapy is important after all; not everything is said directly.
maybe you should focus on this feeling of discomfort; your reaction to it might be more important than your ex's actions. in therapy, you're already dealing with these kinds of confrontations.
Why did you say 'it's a very personal detail' when you brought up the topic? You seem disturbed by it, but you also think it's trivial. This contradiction feels like material for therapy on its own.
Actually, the main issue in therapy is understanding your reactions to events. It's worth explaining why this encounter has such an impact on you, but you don’t have to give all the details.
I'll tell you directly. If it stays inside me, it will grow even more 🙃
I wondered why you still don't fully understand what you're feeling. Try to think back on your emotions from that moment; maybe regardless of whether you can express them or not, we first need to clarify this part.
