My period dates have been really irregular for 4 months, and I've been too scared to go to the doctor. My boyfriend sometimes says my mood is very strange, and I wonder if he notices. But I feel embarrassed to say it directly because I'm afraid it might damage our bond. Do you share things like this?
I was also very scared when my menstrual cycle got disrupted for months like yours. I finally went to the doctor, and I was diagnosed with polycystic ovary syndrome. To be honest, it got me down, but there was a solution. In your case, maybe it's not as serious as you fear, but you can't solve it without seeing a doctor.
You should go directly to a gynecologist and request an ultrasound and hormone tests. In fact, most things become clear during the first examination. If you want to tell your partner, you can say, 'I've been feeling unwell for a while, I'm going to see a doctor,' without going into the details of the situation.
These kinds of irregularities in the menstrual cycle are super common, and can happen because of stress, nutrition, sleeplessness, and so on. So I think you don't need to worry that our connection might get hurt or anything; nobody's perfect after all.
I swear I'll be honest, I don't understand why you're embarrassed. By not sharing this health issue with your partner, you're making things more complicated. In a relationship, I think issues like this should be discussed; otherwise, there won't be any trust.
Let me update you, I actually hinted at it to my girlfriend a bit, but when she asked, 'What's wrong, your mood is fluctuating,' I just said I have a headache. She thinks I'm very laid-back, so I'm afraid she might find it strange. I need to overcome my fear to go to the doctor.
If I think your partner notices the changes in your mood, it's not because they think you're just a "very laid-back person" as you might believe. Maybe they have other concerns on their mind, or they sense you're hiding something but believe it's something else. If you don't explain, they'll only build more assumptions.
Sweetheart, there's nothing to be ashamed of. If you're in pain or having irregularities, these are just part of being a woman. Explain it to your partner like this, so they won't worry. But first, remember this: there's no need to be afraid of the doctor. If you were my daughter, I would literally drag you to that appointment.
Menstrual irregularity can be hormonal, or even a simple source of stress might affect it, but you should definitely see a gynecologist to understand the cause. If the irregularity lasts for a long period like 4 months, ultrasound and blood tests should not be overlooked 🫠
