My girlfriend had been paying for things like groceries and coffee with her credit card for a long time, and I didn’t worry about it thinking that I would pay if needed. But yesterday she sweetly said that we shouldn’t spend this much anymore. In the beginning, she wouldn’t say a word, so why is she suddenly bothered? Is there an issue with our spending or is she viewing our closeness differently now?
Looking at the story, there’s quite a logic problem. You used to pay, now you’re saying let’s not spend, but haven’t you sat down to calculate all of this? In a relationship, it’s not all about romance; a bit of math is needed too. How many months have you been living together? Are the expenses shared?
Maybe it’s not about boredom or anything, but the budget has really tightened? Everyone’s economic situation doesn’t stay the same, after all. At first, not saying anything could be a bit of common sense; now they’ve expressed it directly and openly. Maybe you should consider the value of this a little bit 
@gercekci we never talked about these kinds of expenses before, so I didn’t think too much about it since you pay spontaneously. Now I slowly feel like there’s some distance, I don’t know.
@soran actually, you have a bit of a mistake too. It looks like you’ve left everything to him from the very beginning. Maybe he just came here after bottling things up inside. Don’t jump to conclusions, maybe we should also think about ‘what can I do?’.
Look, I think this “let’s be careful with expenses together” issue is definitely not something to be ignored. I had a similar experience; my partner and I were constantly eating out for breakfast, and then I realized that he was actually overwhelmed by it. When we sat down together and talked about “what’s necessary, what’s unnecessary,” things got better between us. Just have a conversation; sometimes specific topics can be very meaningful.