Girls, my girlfriend asked me for money. Honestly, this is the first time something like this is happening; we were just talking about her expenses and she hadn’t mentioned that her situation was bad. Now I’m thinking, if I give it to her, what if she doesn’t pay me back? Would it damage my trust in her? Or should I think that this is just part of the relationship? What do you think I should do? Does giving a loan damage trust?
So how much did he ask for? If it’s a small amount, like 100-200 lira or something, maybe he needed it right then and there. But if it’s a significant amount, shouldn’t you discuss a repayment plan or something?
From a man’s perspective, asking for money is generally a matter of pride. He might really be in a tight spot but hasn’t been able to say so. You mentioned you just talked about his situation, so he might have just mustered the courage to ask.
Here’s the thing: when lending money to someone, the fundamental rule is to always communicate in writing and clarify the repayment date. You mentioned that if they don’t pay back, in such cases, having written correspondence serves as proof. Whether your relationship will be affected is debatable, but make sure to protect your money.
I thought about it a bit, and actually, the amount isn’t that big, he asked for 500 lira. But it feels like my trust would be shaken if he doesn’t pay it back. I’m surprised because he’s never done anything like this before.
To be honest, I think from the beginning, things like this are against the nature of a relationship for me. If money issues come up before love and trust are established, the outcome is likely to be difficult. Even families in our culture make an issue out of these kinds of matters.
There’s another issue here for me. You’ve talked about your financial situation before; if it was bad, then why didn’t you say so back then? Maybe the debt belongs to someone else or he will use that money for something he can’t tell you about. I think you should press a little harder.