My girlfriend said she was going to meet her ex-boyfriend last, but in the evening, I saw her somewhere else on her story. When I asked her, she spoke as if I misunderstood, but she didn't explain anything logical either. This isn't the first time. It's always these little lies and then an attitude of 'oh, what's the big deal!' Am I overreacting, or does trust really get broken like this?
Look, if she were my daughter, I would definitely suggest she sit down and think about it. You say it's just a small issue, but when trust is broken, even if you don't amplify it, you can't feel at ease. If there's no peace within yourself, that relationship won't work anyway. If that's his nature, just think about it, will it always be like this?
So, if I understand correctly, would you have never heard this boyfriend story if you hadn't asked? And how do you determine if someone is lying, does it always come out so easily? 🥲
@skeptikadam well, usually I find out in the way you mentioned, through stories or from someone else. In this case, I saw it in a story. But sometimes if I ask, they talk convincingly, so I can't be sure 🤦♀️
@ablaanne what kind of advice is that, it's like you want the guy to just lie around at home. There can be some small lies, a relationship shouldn't be managed under heavy pressure. I think the one asking needs to relax a bit too.
The impact of broken trust on a relationship should not be underestimated. When small lies are repeated frequently, they create a questioning and paranoid effect on the other party. To avoid falling into this vicious cycle, open communication is essential. If it is turning into manipulation and you can't talk it out seriously, I would recommend considering professional support.
