I have a short relationship, and my partner is a good person, but their family doesn’t like them. My family is opposing this marriage by using their financial situation as an excuse. I’m also very hesitant; I don’t want to upset either side. What do you think I should do?
I had a similar experience. I dated someone my family didn't approve of years ago, and there was a lot of pressure. In the end, I did what they said. But afterwards, I deeply regretted it. It's your life, after all.
Being a family means having a certain equality, right? Material things aren't necessarily a must, but there are essential things for a shared life after all. I'm not sure if the family is thinking about this incorrectly.
@kahvebitmeden what does equivalence even mean, if a woman is happy with the one she loves, do you have the right to interfere from the outside? They say she's a good person, what more do you want?
Are you planning to have an engagement ceremony soon, or are you just talking about it as a possibility for the future? I think you should share some details.
@soncaykaldi right now it doesn't seem like marriage is happening anytime soon, but my family is already causing trouble. They're worried that a wedding would be a serious expense.
@aklimkaldi that's a different thing for sure, you need to have a serious conversation about wedding plans. But it still feels wrong to me to end a relationship just because of salary 😳
I would say to speak directly and clearly with my family. This is such a mess 😬
Does your girlfriend know about these? What does she think about the situation?
It seems like a silly matter.
So, is the boy's job set? Does he have potential? Sometimes it's not just about the salary; determination is important, but families look at the number and want security. Will the guy pull it together?
