My aunt showed my girlfriend's Instagram story to my mom without me knowing. My mom got curious and asked me about it. I honestly don’t know how to respond. I'm confused; I don't want to hurt my aunt, but I can’t tolerate this kind of interference in my personal life.
Oh, these kinds of things always happen in families... My aunt once showed my dad my ex-boyfriend's Facebook photos and teased him, saying, 'Is this kid doing anything serious?' I stayed quiet back then, but I wish I had said something 😳
Yeah, but your mom is right about one thing. She needs to know who's in your life. Your aunt might have done it with a wrong thought, but I don't think her intentions are bad. 🤷♀️
@kahvebitmeden but isn't there a boundary to private life? So, will his huge mother learn about the girlfriend from a story? Everyone's life is their own.
I think you should talk directly and clearly to your aunt and tell her that such things bother you. If you explain it in a civil manner, no one will take it the wrong way and it will be resolved. Also, tell your mom that you have a partner, but that you'll introduce them at the first opportunity.
Did Anna know you had a girlfriend before? Or had this topic never been discussed between you?
@pazardandondum my mom knows, but not in this much detail. She's started asking irrelevant questions because of the story thing. By the way, this isn't the first time; it's like a habit of my aunt's 🥲
I don't think it's a big deal for your mom to learn, but your aunt's constant interference is a problem. She already said it's like a "habit." The real issue here is probably the aunt.
it won't end unless you set a clear boundary within the family
If your aunt keeps doing things like this, why isn't your mom stopping her? She needs to react a little too. If you're always stuck in the middle, that's tough 😅
What's the reason for leaving so much space for your aunt? Is your mom hesitant, or does your aunt have the authority? It seems like the gossip won't end until that's figured out 😅
Maybe your aunt is doing this with your mother’s permission? I mean, they might have set it up like, "look, say something about this so that you have control over it." This indirect method might be easier for your mother, rather than confronting directly. Did you ever get that vibe?
Maybe your aunt isn't really concerned, she's just butting in for the sake of it? You know how some people constantly share their opinions reflexively, without even considering the depth of the matter. Perhaps your mom isn't saying anything because she doesn't take it seriously. Have you ever thought about it that way? 😳
It's strange that your mom doesn't stop it even if Auntie is interfering. I mean, shouldn't she react if it bothers you, even if she doesn't take it seriously? Have you ever clearly told her, "It's exhausting me, please don't interfere"? 😬
