Ev & Yaşam2 Mayıs 2026

The recent currency increase affected the rent, my roommate doesn't understand

Recently, rent prices have skyrocketed and I believe my roommate needs to cope with this too. But he opposes it by saying, 'we've paid enough.' We respect each other, but this situation is stressing me out a lot, and there's an uncomfortable atmosphere at home. What kind of solution can I find?

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camasirsuyu

I think there is a very critical gap in the "I don't understand" issue: Is it possible that they really don't understand? In other words, are the words and assumptions you use while explaining the situation at a level they can comprehend? Even if you didn't detail the impact of currency increase on rent, the part that affects your budget, did you talk directly with concrete numbers like "your share is increasing this much"? Or did you confuse them by explaining it in a complicated way? You cannot solve the problem without clarifying the starting point.

eskiuyelik

"Could they really not understand?" I have a question for those who say this: If you don't understand, which adult's solution is simply to say "I don't understand" and move on? If you don't understand, you ask questions, you try to learn. Is it really that easy to just say "I don't know" and step aside?

uzatmakablasi

"I don't understand," they say, but maybe they are really experiencing an emotional block amidst all that chaos and economic fragility. You know, they might be in a mode where they completely shut themselves off, thinking, "I can't grasp these things." But how does that affect your attempts to resolve something with them? If you're hitting a wall every time, shouldn't you change your approach?

ortayakarisik3

The phrase "I don't understand" can sometimes overlap with the desire not to understand. Do you think this situation could be a direct attempt to protect a comfort zone? In other words, could the issue be not genuinely being unable to overcome the chaos, but instead a reluctance to disrupt a system that allows one to continue without raising objections?

kirecbaglamis

They may say "I don't understand" and want to maintain their comfort zone, but then they have to accept that this system works in their favor. If they don't want to share responsibility when you need to increase your share, can that system be sustainable for you? For example, didn’t you ever ask openly, "your rent share has increased by this much, how are we going to pay?" Let’s see if they really don’t understand or if this is just an excuse to escape.

marketposeti

Well, in that case, how will they share the consequences if the rent is not paid or is delayed when they withdraw and say, "I don't understand"? Will it just remain the payer's problem? Because running things with a figurative "older brother/sister living in a student house" model seems a bit unfair.

eskiuyelik

But how sustainable is this "I don't understand" attitude? I mean, today they say "I don't understand" about the rent issue; will they react the same way to another common problem tomorrow? Continuously avoiding such a fundamental topic in shared life, won't it wear down the relationship?

kapisonra

"I don't understand" is a phrase often used, and I think it should be clarified in such cases: Is there any instance in the past where they actually tried to understand a situation? If the outcome is the same every time, it would make more sense to talk about a lack of effort. Does a person never want to learn what is their share?

nemliyken

Have you ever played devil's advocate? I mean, maybe they don't really not understand but find it easier to say "I don't understand" so you can solve it for them? Could it be that a system you've gathered from the start has become a habit?

utuprizi

"I don't understand" sounds like an excuse to me. Because even if they don't understand, they are definitely managing other things in their life, right? Do they have a phone bill, are they shopping, they must be handling it somehow. Could it be that they just don't feel like it?

miniksercefan

Perhaps they are engaging in a kind of passive resistance by saying "I don’t understand"? You know, a stance like Tarkan’s saying "Tonight is my night, let no one speak." They don’t want to disrupt their own order, and they're causing you to hit this silent wall too. But the real question should be, what kind of solution do they aim for in the long term with this method?

sungerliyorum

What context could he be using to translate what he said as "I leave it to you"? I mean, if he truly doesn't understand, he could discuss solutions with you, right? But it seems like there's a situation where he remains passive in the problem-solving process and increases the workload. For instance, in this cycle, have you ever given him a chance to clarify what he will take over?

tamustune

But isn't it also a problem that he doesn't say "I can't pay" as much as the issue of "I don't understand" here? I mean, why doesn't he talk about something he doesn't understand or take steps to find a solution? Perhaps he thinks he hasn't been given the opportunity to speak; could this be the reason for his passivity?

lafhazirladim

For someone who says "I don't understand," perhaps the critical question is this: Are they really struggling to understand and feeling hopeless, or are they just unwilling to understand and making things more complicated? These are two very different scenarios, and the solution will be completely different as well. Just directly ask, "So what don’t you understand, where shall we start?" Lay the cards on the table. Let's see if their head is really confused or if they are trying to dodge because the situation has become serious.

askilikta

When you say "I don't understand," do they really stop and wait, or do they keep talking and switch to other topics? If they constantly derail the conversation and prevent you from focusing, it could also be a strategy. Do they go directly off-topic, or do they stay silent in the same space? Pay close attention.

morlegen3

If they say "I don't understand," have you ever asked what information they need? Because a person who doesn't understand usually indicates a deficiency, they say "this part is unclear," at least drawing some direction. But if the topic is already closed off in their mind, it means they have no concern for understanding.

nemliyken

Or maybe living with someone who doesn't understand is his "comfort zone"? It's like you clean the house every time, change the sheets, and dust. He sometimes hides under the mental blanket saying "I don't understand." Inevitably, you must be trying to balance things while he stays comfortable. Perhaps it's worth discussing how sustainable this balance is for you?

sungerliyorum

So, apart from saying "I don't understand," in what other responsibilities does he exhibit a similar attitude? Is it just in this rental matter? Or does he create a similar void in general work sharing as well? I think evaluating this issue through his overall behavior could provide a clearer picture.

fazlaalindim

If they say, "I don't understand," could it be a conscious tactic to constantly postpone the payment part of the job? Like, "If I don't understand, you take care of it, then we'll see later." Because as long as the issue remains unresolved, it seems like they don't feel their share of the burden. For example, has there ever been a situation like this in previous payments, or is this entirely specific to the foreign exchange issue? Take a look; perhaps there are signals from the past as well.

pazarertesi

If there hasn’t been such a maneuver of "I don’t understand" in past payments, this currency increase issue could have been a trigger point for him. Maybe as financial pressure increased, he felt more desperate and his behavior stemmed from that. But one must ask: Is this state of "I don’t understand" only present when he talks to you, or does he display such confusion in other areas as well? If he can make a very clear plan when it suits him, then it smells less like stress and more like a situation where he just doesn’t want to engage.

tenceredibi

And there's this: how can someone who says "I don't understand" not sit down to gather information in such a complex matter to find a solution? I mean, if an individual can't come up with a solution by consulting a bank, a friend, or doing an internet search, it might also be a reflex to place that burden on your shoulders. Think about whether there’s an easy way out for them, because everyone actually takes a step to solve their own crisis.

marketposeti

Maybe they're testing your approach to the issue by saying "I don't understand"? In other words, they might want to take a backseat and let you handle the solution completely. Because expecting you to take responsibility from start to finish on an issue like currency fluctuations makes it easier for them to avoid responsibility. Do you ever feel like they have the perception of "Even if I don't understand, you need to come up with a solution"?

kirlisepetim

My girlfriend sometimes also says "I don't understand" and waits, but then I realized she's actually pretending not to understand. She would ignore things that didn't suit her and wouldn't discuss them. Once, I directly said, "What don't you understand? Explain it." It turned out she wasn't questioning the amount to be paid, but why we needed to share it. Maybe you're asking the wrong question?

icimdengecmis

Perhaps the issue isn't the "not understanding" part, but rather how the increase in exchange rates will be fairly distributed. In other words, you've come up with a formula based on the increase, but it may not accept that same logic. If you were to sit down again and ask, "If you were in the other person's shoes, what solution would you suggest?" they might open up their perspective.

pazarertesi

So, does this "I don't understand" sentence really end where he doesn't understand, or does it sound like a defense mechanism to shut down the conversation at that moment? If after this statement he withdraws and doesn't participate in any search for a solution, then the problem might not be about not understanding, but rather about not wanting to engage with the issue. Even if he comes up with his own solution, it needs to be seen as something he can resolve in his own mind.

eldeyikama

Constantly saying "I don’t understand" and pulling away, even if it’s well-intentioned, isn't sustainable. Everyone takes the time to learn things they don’t understand, especially on a common subject like this. You need to clarify whether they're actually resisting discussing it with you or if there’s something they genuinely don’t understand. Push by saying, "What don’t you understand? Explain it clearly."

askilikta

Could it be that you really don't notice how this currency increase is affecting you, besides saying, "I don't understand" and not taking responsibility? I mean, have you clearly shown how much it has strained your budget, and how you're trying to establish a balance because of it? Maybe they don't see it as a bigger issue for you.

miniksercefan

Saying "I don't understand" can sometimes be a passive resistance, and sometimes it might actually mean not understanding. However, the clearest way to distinguish between the two is to observe their reaction when you present a solution. If you come up with a formula and they say "no," then what do they suggest? In such a case, toss the ball back by asking, "How would you do it if you were in my shoes?" Let's see if this time it’s "I don’t understand," or if they’re just being difficult.

pazarfilesi

I also wondered this: When you talk about this currency increase, what is their overall attitude like? Do they brush it off with general statements like "everything is already expensive," or do they genuinely seem to be waiting for solutions? Because sometimes the main issue isn't just not understanding, but not being a solution-oriented person. If that's how it works for them, they'll continue like this.

morlegen3

Apart from saying "I don't understand" and blocking the topic, how is your general spending pattern? For example, is there a carefree attitude without calculation in other matters as well? If this is not just about rent but a general attitude, the issue is not about currency but about sharing responsibility. Keep that in mind as you move forward.

kapisonra

Maybe it's worth discussing the general approach to money rather than just rent directly. I mean, is it an excuse due to the increase in foreign currency, or is it someone who doesn't want to take on financial responsibilities in the first place? It wouldn't be surprising for someone with a mindset of "incoming income, outgoing expenses" to not understand such situations. Have you ever talked about this in a broader context?

kirecbaglamis

He says "I don't understand" and brushes it off, but could the increase in currency exchange rates not affect his budget at all? I mean, maybe there is a significant difference between your income-expense situation and his, and that's why he's not taking the issue as seriously. If a common burden-sharing is to be discussed, we also need to see how the other side has been affected by this increase.

tozbezi

Also, think about this: Are you paying the same rent, or are you taking on more? Even if you pay equally, have you tried an approach like how to divide the increase based on income differences? Because under "I don't understand," there could simply be a mindset of "it's not my problem."

kapisonra

Have you tried offering a solution after "I don't understand"? For instance, did you present a concrete solution like, "The rent increased by this rate, and if we split it this way, it would be fair"? Or are you going back and forth from a place where you thoroughly explain, and he only listens? Because sometimes his "I don't understand" could mean "you handle it."

miniksercefan

If he says "I don't understand," another reason he might not really understand could be that he doesn't want to change his current living standards. For example, this rent increase might be something he thinks could be easily solved with money in his pocket, and maybe he doesn't even consider it a pressing issue. Instead of asking, "How do you think we can solve this?" ask him, "Why doesn't this increase bother you?" If he has a hidden ace up his sleeve, he might reveal it.

pencereonu

But has anyone ever lived on their own? Sometimes, someone who hasn't truly experienced how heavy that responsibility can be might get stuck in a "I don't understand" mindset. If that's the case, it might be necessary to try concrete things to help them feel that burden.

lafhazirladim

Maybe the issue isn’t really the currency or renting increases, but the communication breakdown between you is actually amplifying the situation. So is the phrase "I don’t understand" just a reflex, or is it a sign that you’re underestimating your financial troubles? It seems related, but when you dig deeper, does another tension emerge? Check into it.

camasirsuyu

If they're saying "I don't understand," maybe they're not really thinking about the issue at all. Just put it in front of them directly: "There has been this much increase, and there is this much excess monthly, what are we doing?" Maybe presenting it with numbers will spark some movement, because it seems they're avoiding an abstract discussion. Even if you don't get a clear answer, their intentions are already apparent.

eskiuyelik

Have you ever tried discussing things from the perspective of "how hard would it be if I handled it all myself"? In other words, have you clearly put the possibility of them sharing your burden on the table? I think they need to understand that you are drawing a line against their indifference; otherwise, this complacency will just continue.

kapisonra

The timing of "I don't understand" is important. For example, did they express such reactions before the topic of rent increase came up? Or is it just about avoiding sharing a common burden with you? If they keep saying "I don't understand," maybe it's just a way for them to shirk their responsibilities.

gecegece

Has he behaved like this in something else that required a joint decision outside the budget before? For example, when the electricity bill increased, does he also brush it off with "I don't understand" when it comes to grocery shopping or something similar? Or is it just rent that is a distant issue for him?

kirlisepetim

Maybe they're taking "I don’t understand" as something related to how you feel. In other words, they might be giving this response not directly from their own position but to soothe you. You can explore your feelings, like "Why am I feeling so tense, are you aware of it?" and see if they really have the intention to come up with a solution or not.

silsuple

If they don't understand, maybe they have become so accustomed to class privilege that this kind of increase is invisible to them. What about the division of labor at home? I mean, if they're not sharing the financial burden but also not sharing the effort, then the issue isn't just economic; they may have normalized carrying the entire weight of daily life. It's worth examining their own habits a bit.

komsuyagittim

I think this "I don't understand" is a bit of a dodge. Ask clearly, "Is the increase in housing not affecting you, how do you handle it?" Either they are hiding their situation or avoiding understanding you, but give them a wake-up call, maybe they really aren’t aware.

balkonperdesi

Has he offered any solutions instead of just saying "I don't understand" from the start? For instance, did he ever say something like, "We could do this, we could share that"? Or is he completely leaving it up to you? Because this seems like an evasion of responsibility, not just financial but in general.

tozbezi

Someone who says "I don't understand" is usually accustomed to comfort and chooses not to understand. If they trust that you'll handle things, they take the luxury of not worrying. I think you should lay all the numbers out in front of them once, and ask plainly: "What will your contribution be?" If they don't offer a solution, it's not really a lack of understanding but rather a reluctance to put in the effort that becomes evident.

nemliyken

So despite this excuse of "I don’t understand," is there a change in personal expenses besides joint household costs? For instance, do they hesitate to spend on their own pleasures, while having an attitude of "I wasn’t affected at all" when it comes to mandatory expenses like rent? Those who don’t understand certain things are actually quite good at shopping.

fazlaalindim

I wondered about this: After saying "I don't understand," did they present a serious solution proposal or a deferral tactic at the table? For example, something like "Let's manage like this for a few months, and I'll contribute more later"? If they're not saying anything at all, there could also be some kind of silent manipulation involved.

pencereonu

Have you ever tried sitting down with someone who says "I don’t understand" and discussing the budget details line by line at least once? Because sometimes it's really just a simple math problem that remains unresolved until taken seriously. It's an absurd example, but if someone says, "This increase is a burden I can't handle alone, what do you suggest?" and then goes completely silent, you can see their intentions clearly.

komsuyagittim

If your roommate's family is supporting them, could the phrase "I don’t understand" be coming from them as well? I mean, someone who has never faced serious financial difficulties in their life probably either found an easy way to handle it or someone else handled it for them. Perhaps they think there is a similar solution for you too. Have you discussed this openly?

ortayakarisik3

Since he didn't understand, he didn't suggest any bargaining, right? For example, did he say something like, "Let's talk about a discount with the landlord, or let's look at another house?" Because this kind of "not understanding" can sometimes be related to not wanting to help at all; if he's not making any effort to share the burden, his intentions are clear.

tozbezi

Also, think about it this way: maybe they really don't understand, but what they mean is that they have never paid attention to financial matters. I think you should ask them this too; have they ever managed a household on their own? Or have they always seen an easy solution from outside? Because financial awareness is also a matter of experience.

eldeyikama

People who say "I don't understand" and withdraw from the situation usually have never experienced the value of money or that it needs to flow within a system. So, do you think their confusion is sincere when you explain the details of rent, expenses, etc.? Or do you notice that even while explaining, at some point they seem to zone out or try to wrap up the topic? I think it's important to feel this distinction.

pencereonu

Have you tried leaving everything to him for a while if he says he doesn't understand? Maybe when he's involved, he'll either actually understand or stop using that as an excuse. If you're always the one organizing, he might have gotten too comfortable.

kirlisepetim

Maybe the issue isn't "not understanding," but rather preferring to ignore what's happening? Because at one point in our house, my spouse was acting as if they hadn't noticed the rising interest rates on our credit cards. They actually noticed, but didn't want to confront it. Does your roommate have such an escape possibility?

eldeyikama

Could it be that when someone says "I don't understand," they are actually questioning the expenses? For example, is there a doubt like "Does it really cost this much?" Because sometimes people don't try to comprehend the budget itself, but rather why it has inflated to that extent, yet they struggle to express it.

miniksercefan

Are you still swallowing that "I don't understand" line of theirs? Because in my opinion, it's just a softened way of saying, "I don't want to take responsibility." I mean, zero effort, zero suggestions for a solution, but rent is due... Even 90s sitcoms weren't this passive-aggressive.

kapisonra

Could saying "I don't understand" make you tired as you keep talking? Because some people expect the other person to give up on solving something instead of understanding it. I suggest you think about whether you're in such a cycle; while they keep saying 'I don't understand', you might be stuck in a regulatory role.

tenceredibi

Well, have you ever considered that beneath this "I don't understand" could be the shame of not being able to provide financially? Maybe they truly can't give more but might be ashamed to say so. Because sometimes it's not about understanding, but rather the inability to explain that is the real issue. Just ask directly, inquire about the details of their situation.

cayibardakta

I think this "I don't understand" situation might also be a matter of trust. Maybe they don't fully believe you, questioning where you spend your money, but don’t want to say it outright. Are you being transparent, showing your expenses, being clear?

tamustune

Could it be that the reason behind "I don't understand" is simply laziness rather than trust or questioning? You know how some people instinctively pull back from things that require thinking... Maybe they don’t intend to try at all because they know you’ll take care of it.

berjerkoltuk

"I don't understand" might be an excuse to make you solve it, but it could also just be a habit. Who used to handle these kinds of things before? Were there always people in the family or in previous household arrangements that organized things? Maybe it's not a personal irresponsibility, but rather a habit of being completely dependent on an external system. We need to get to the root of it.

silsuple

Could saying "I don’t understand" actually mean that they want to completely exclude themselves from the process? I mean, on one hand, they’re leaving the burden to you, and on the other hand, by not being in control of the details, they aren’t taking responsibility if something goes wrong later. It could be a passive control method; have you ever thought about it this way?

icimdengecmis

Is "I don’t understand" a passive escape here, or is there really a lack of information? This cannot be resolved without understanding that. For instance, have you ever sat down and clearly laid out the costs in writing? Sometimes people react more seriously when they see something concrete on the screen.

kapisonra

Or just think this: is there really something he says he "doesn't understand"? Because currency hikes, rent, essential expenses, etc., aren't that complicated. If he still says he doesn't understand such a straightforward topic, it means he's avoiding understanding. There's someone here who doesn't want to take responsibility, it's not a lack of information.

pencereonu

If they're saying they don't understand, just once say, "Okay, you don't understand, then I will determine the rent share," and see what reaction you get. Sometimes, those who don't want to understand act so casually because they don't feel the seriousness of the matter. If you can't resolve it, be clear and say, "This system can't go on like this."

eldeyikama

Maybe behind their saying "I don't understand" is their inability to balance income and expenses. When you compare your spending to theirs, you may be managing things more efficiently or differently, and they might feel inadequate realizing this. However, if they are not confronting this part, it’s easier for them to put it on your shoulders. Have you ever tried to guide them with concrete suggestions? Like "If you get this from there, you'll pay this much less."

sungerliyorum

There may also be a situation behind "I don't understand" where they care less about certain matters. In other words, if the rent increase is not an alarming event for them, they might not even want to think about this issue. Are there other areas where they show no reaction, such as electricity or water bills? Maybe you can draw something from there.

utuprizi

Hasn't someone who says "I don't understand" ever clearly asked what they don't understand? Maybe they're testing you with a rent increase. They're measuring your reaction. If you won't take it personally, send a direct message: "This arrangement is unhealthy, it won't work like this." Let's see what happens.

pencereonu

One possibility is that there is a general ignorance regarding things like currency and rent increases. Not everyone grows up with the same economic awareness. Have you discussed this topic in broad terms before? For example, why certain items are increasing, why it affects you, etc. Perhaps there is a fundamental "I don’t know" at the core.

nemliyken

I think the issue is with the exact context of when "I don't understand" is said. For example, has there been an increase in bills like rent, has the grocery expense gone up, does he not know this either? Or is he just playing tactics and going for the "I can't deal with financial details" attitude? If there is a prevailing "I don't understand" in all areas, the situation is just swirling around like bleach, but no one is cleaning up the spilled part. In this system, the detergent will run out in the long run, just so you know.

balkonperdesi

Perhaps the part where he says "I don't understand" is not just a technical escape, but rather a way to hide a more general financial situation that he does not want to discuss. How has this currency increase really affected him personally, especially regarding his own income or contribution—is he clear about that? Maybe there is an independent issue there, but he chooses not to talk about it.

icimdengecmis

If he claims that he really doesn't understand, suggest sitting down together to create a table of values. Writing it out on paper will make the task clear enough that it can't be overlooked. If he still doesn't understand, there might be another equation he's struggling to relate to or is lacking knowledge about, and you'll be able to see that.

kirecbaglamis

Maybe they don’t not want to understand, but they don’t want to accept the increase. Has the burden of rent increased too much compared to their income? Do they need a calculable solution? Or could they be expecting you to contribute more, maybe just ask them directly.

uzatmakablasi

As I understand it, you still haven't clarified the reason behind "I don't understand." Have you ever thought about whether there's an "opaque" side to his budget? Perhaps the income-expense balance is different from what it seems. So we assume he's saying, "I'm spending less," but maybe the process is stuck because he hasn't been saving... or is there another spending burden that he's not telling you about?

pazarertesi

Before moving to a rented place, had you talked about whether you were living in the same economy? Because "I don’t understand" might stem from not knowing this difference. If you didn’t test this compatibility in the beginning, it’s difficult to deal with now.

yorgunpersembe

I think saying "I don't understand" could be a bit of a way to avoid responsibility. The increase in exchange rates affects rent; you don’t need to be an economics professor to understand that. The real issue is, why is he trying to put this on you? Clearly ask, "How does this increase affect you?" Let's see the concrete answer.

komsuyagittim

Maybe they're saying "I don't understand" because it seems that way to them. I mean, could it be a tactic of "sharing feels difficult, I'm stalling you"? Dig a little deeper; if it's gone on this long, there might be another intention behind the scenes.

sungerliyorum

Well, if rent and bills are being paid right now, this state of "I don’t understand" must somehow rely on a functioning mechanism. So do you take care of everything, or does he not check at all? Or is it more like a sense of confidence where he’s like, "Let it run without touching me"? If there is such a self-assured state of "not caring," this relationship will take a toll.

uzatmakablasi

So does it ever look like they really don’t understand when they say "I don’t get it," or is it just a reflex to close the topic? Because people usually show it through their face or their reactions, is this a sincere confusion or a deliberate postponement mechanism? I think the strategy changes based on their behavior.

tenceredibi

If they're choosing to act like they don't understand, it means you're talking to another wall. Because the increase in currency and the math of rent is not a physics problem; it's a clear outcome. Ask directly if they don't want to share the burden; it becomes clear if they're avoiding it.

kirecbaglamis

Perhaps the issue is not his understanding of the exchange rate/rent increase, but rather his loss of the ability to respond to this situation. Sometimes a person does not simply accept the situation by saying, "I don't understand," in an uncontrollable environment. So is this increase at the point of "there's nothing to be done" for him, or is there still an effort to pass on some responsibility to you?

nemliyken

Maybe you keep explaining as I say "I don't understand," and that way, everything is already resolved for you. It's a bit like putting wet clothes in the closet instead of drying them; until that burden is lifted, one gets used to the musty smell. So, have you ever thrown the ball in his court by saying, "You explain, I'll listen, maybe we can find a solution together?"

biaraokurum

Forget about the exchange rate increase, show me a grocery receipt then. If they genuinely say "I don't understand," why is a kilo of potatoes 40? Both rent and groceries coexist under the same sky.

fazlaalindim

If they're saying "I don't understand," then why are they looking for a solution under your responsibility? I mean, if they've let go of the reins, then you should let go for a while too. Let's see if they're really handling things on their own?

sungerliyorum

So, while this state of "I don't understand" persists, was there ever a moment when a common decision was made? In other words, did you discuss any concrete systems at the beginning, like splitting the rent or sharing grocery expenses, or did everything just shape itself as it went along? Because if there's no clear system, "I don't understand" could act as a kind of escape ticket forever.

biaraokurum

When you say you don't understand, are you lost in terms of the financial aspect, or in the general perception of cost of living? Because while "rent, bills, grocery" may seem like separate categories, at their core they all revolve around the same budget. You might be getting stuck in a fragmented and messy way instead of facing it directly.

ortayakarisik3

What he means by not understanding might just be related to sensing the speed of these increases. I mean, yes, everything is expensive, but he’s thinking, "Why am I always the one at a loss in such a fast cycle?" Instead of the currency-rent relationship, have you tried approaching it directly with an equation from his own life? For example, last month we spent this much at the market, and this month it’s this much for the same list. Such data might feel more concrete.

yorgunpersembe

Let's skip the "I don't understand" part a bit. Even if one doesn't understand, life goes on, bills come in, and living with roommates is a kind of little partnership. The main issue here is whether there is a will to discuss these increases and seek solutions. Or is the conversation about understanding/not understanding just a big distraction?

tenceredibi

Could this "I don’t understand" issue actually mean "I don’t care"? That is, is the rent increase a priority on their agenda, or is it being kept on the agenda because of your efforts? Because if it were something they genuinely cared about, you would see some action towards a solution. Or is the burden all on you from the very beginning?

berjerkoltuk

Maybe when he says "I don't understand," he actually needs to understand something, but your explanations aren't in his language. You know, everyone's currency is different; we need to figure out his personal economic understanding. For example, have you ever laid out fixed expenses in writing for him? Sometimes seeing it visually really makes a difference.

tersminder

Or he might think that the price increase has nothing to do with the currency, perceiving it solely as the landlord's whim. Ask directly whether he genuinely doesn’t understand why the rent has increased, or if he’s in a "what do I care about the currency?" mindset. Because one reflects a lack of information, while the other indicates a completely different peace of mind.

miniksercefan

Maybe what she means by "I don't understand" is not about the reasons for the increases, but about accepting the responsibility you've placed on her. She might be in a "I don't even have a cat, do you understand?" kind of mood, you know? She doesn't want to, so she doesn't feel the need to understand. Have you tried talking directly about sharing the load? Why does everything have to be a problem that you need to solve?

minibussonu

the main question here is this: Does he really "not understand", or is this state of misunderstanding some kind of strategy? Because some people pretend not to understand what doesn't suit them, they get lost in solution discussions, but when it comes to another expense, they can calculate beautifully. Is there also such a "selective blindness" in other expense categories at home? I suggest taking a look.

nemliyken

Not understanding can sometimes truly mean not understanding, but other times it can be a way to avoid the responsibility that comes with understanding. Have you ever tried this: Let them explain, what do they feel about the rise in currency, rent, groceries? See what comes out of it. Or are you always the one explaining?

yorgunpersembe

You need to clarify the "not understanding" part in your mind. Look, there is a way to explain things to someone who truly doesn't understand. But if you think they don't want to understand, a different approach is necessary. Because one is about sharing knowledge, the other is a matter of sharing responsibilities. Are you sure which one you are?

supurgekablosu

Rather than just trying to understand here, it’s necessary to look at whether they are receptive to finding a solution even if they don’t understand. Because if there’s an equation that you keep explaining and putting effort into, it’s no longer just a matter of "understanding." Have you ever passed the ball to them by asking, "So what do you plan to do?" Let’s see if their problem is wanting to understand or avoiding a solution.

berjerkoltuk

So what's your limit with this state of "not understanding"? In other words, is there an end to all this effort of untangling? Because if the burden completely falls on you when a solution can't be found, whether or not they understand, it's no longer about their inability to grasp it, but rather about your accustomedness to carrying that weight.

lafhazirladim

But it's clear that we need to understand whether right now "foreign exchange" is just an excuse or a real problem. I mean, as much as it's important to talk about the cause of the increase, not discussing what to do about this increase could be the main issue. For example, if someone says "the exchange rate doesn't matter," are you still trying to discuss solutions anyway? Because sometimes, stopping the conversation at some point can also be a solution.

eldeyikama

Let's skip the part about not understanding or not wanting to understand, and consider it from another angle: Is the increase in rent affecting his life in a concrete way? In other words, is the balance between income and expenses somehow being disrupted, or is it that he remains so indifferent because the situation doesn't actually cause him financial distress? This could also be a matter of "it doesn't really touch my pocket anyway."