The recent currency increase affected the rent, my roommate doesn't understand

Also, think about this: Perhaps the "not understanding" you mentioned is due to the fact that they see the issue from a completely different perspective. For instance, the increase in rent might not be a problem for them, but the way you make this increase a problem could be overwhelming for them. You know how everyone carries the same burden, but some do it quietly while others do it loudly. Is your voice getting too loud, or have they quieted theirs?

So you're saying that rent has increased in foreign currency, have you clearly stated the exact figure of this increase and your share of it? Are you speaking with an approach like "rent is rising, you need to be aware of it" without presenting a tangible calculation? Perhaps the issue might just seem like an abstract discussion to them.

So, has the person you call a roommate started to cut back on other expenses as the rent increases? I mean, maybe they haven't "understood" but have come up with a different balancing act in their own mind. But if nothing is changing at all, then that's really a bit too comfortable of a situation.

Now you're talking about the rise in currency, but it's not just about the rise in currency; the real issue is how the landlord reflects this increase in the rent. Has the rent truly increased according to market conditions, or has it been a pretext to impose extra charges under the guise of "currency"? Your roommate might not grasp the seriousness of the situation if they don't question this. Have you ever looked into this?

Maybe your roommate sees this currency thing as completely speculative? I mean, does he think, "it has increased now, but it will drop tomorrow"? If he has this kind of mindset, he might also perceive the increase in rent as just a temporary situation. Have you had any discussions about this in terms of "long-term"?

Maybe you need to clarify the issue of "whose problem it is". In other words, is the discussion about currency, rent, etc., perceived as an external issue, or is it considered a common problem of the household? Because in situations like this, if one side shifts to a "it's your issue" mode, it can lead to a quicker disconnect from the other side.

Maybe there's another issue related to the rent increase that they're hesitant to mention? For example, people often give indirect reactions instead of saying directly, "it's too much for me." I would say, speak openly about what they're satisfied with regarding their share.

Maybe they never look at it from a financial perspective? I mean, the general expenses of the house, the environment, the arrangement, etc., might be enough for them and they might consciously not care about the increase part. For example, is "convenience" a bigger factor for them than rent? Have you ever directly asked, "Why do you choose to stay here?"

Is your roommate looking at other similar offers? I mean, after this increase, could they be considering a choice like "I could live somewhere else for this money"? Has such a thing ever been discussed?

Maybe your roommate is confused between "increase" and "entitlement." In other words, they might not take the situation seriously because they're thinking, "We give so much, but what do we get in return?" Have you ever talked about what you get in exchange for the rent?

Maybe your roommate is comparing their income to yours and thinking something like, "This increase isn’t equally significant for both of us." In other words, if they believe it comes easier to you, the issue might not just be "not understanding," but could also be a conscious sense of ease. If you asked openly, "Is this sustainable for you?" would anything come out of it?

Maybe you've wrapped yourself up and entered the "what can we do, the market is like this" mode. It seems like you might be retreating into the comfort of accepting the increase. Have you ever sat down and questioned, "Is this house really worth this much money?" You might just be holding onto it out of habit.

Maybe your roommate thinks that you are the one who should bring up the increase and suggest a "solution." Since you are the one worrying about the rent, they might be placing the responsibility of taking action on you as well. If you were to throw the ball back at them with the question, "What do you suggest?" what would happen?

Maybe there's no need for such detailed analyses? If you just sit down like a proper person and directly ask, "How does the increase affect you, is it reasonable to continue renting this house, or should we think of other solutions?" it seems like something that could be solved in two sentences. I think you're overcomplicating it.

Your roommate may not be unaware of the increase, but could be ignoring it. In Turkey, it's very common to "be aware and stay silent" about such things. Perhaps they are tight on payments but not admitting it. Could it be that debts or such issues have not been discussed?

Maybe your roommate thinks the price increases are just a "temporary situation"? That is, with the currency being so volatile, they might believe, "It'll get back to normal in a few months, why should I deal with the hassle of moving now?" Have you ever asked them if they have this short-term perspective?

Maybe they're taking the whole price increase seriously but not sharing it with you? They might be thinking about moving in with someone from their own circle, but are avoiding confronting you about it. Have there been any indirect signals?

Perhaps your roommate is experiencing confusion about the price increases not only from a financial perspective but also from an emotional one. They might feel stuck, thinking, "I don't want to move now, but I can't handle this expense either." How do they feel about the idea of moving, or have they ever thought of another solution for a while?

Maybe your roommate is already complaining about this increase but is staying silent out of fear that "we could face something worse." You know, that mentality of "there's always someone worse off" has become everyone's inner voice. Do you think if they really tried to find a cheaper place, they would coordinate with you?

Maybe the issue is the preference not to give up their current place rather than the cost of the house or the time? In other words, it could involve not just the financial aspect, but also the neighborhood, surroundings, and habits. Have you thought together about the consequences of leaving this house? What will you have to renounce, has it been discussed?

I don't think we need to say "maybe"; let me ask directly: What is this person's general attitude? Because some people prefer to wait for others to take the initiative instead of taking action regarding their own work. Or is there a fundamental issue here related to sharing responsibilities rather than just a raise?

The problem could also be a scarcity mentality. You know, there are people who, out of fear of losing something, do nothing and just watch things get worse. The way to understand this is to talk openly; if the person is avoiding it, it's already clear.

Could the increase in exchange rates be an excuse? I mean, they acknowledge the impact of the price hikes but actually seem unwilling to change the existing system at its core. The expenses of searching for a new home and the stress of moving. Did you directly ask, "Why do you want to keep this house?" to clarify the reasons?

Maybe it's not just an excuse of currency increase, but rather a fear beyond the excuse? I mean, a fear that the current budget won't suffice when moving, and that the same cycle will continue in the new place. Are they someone who loves to take risks, or someone who cannot break away from the fixed order? It can be resolved from there.

Could there be some credit card debt or something? I mean, it doesn't seem directly related to the increase in foreign currency, but if the budget is already going to other places, the burden of the increase must feel even heavier. Have you talked at all about any debt or other spending situations?

Maybe they don't show it, but does the landlord who thinks they will benefit by raising the rent have a separate calculation in mind? I mean, should they consider if they can find someone to replace you immediately if you leave, or will they back down out of fear of the place being empty? In that case, you could actually negotiate the rent increase more firmly.

The landlord's fear of vacancy can sometimes backfire. Because new tenants, who become trapped in high rents just because they think "I can't find anything better," are filling every space. What's really important here is the answer to the roommate's question, "How long is this place suitable for us?" Are they thinking long-term, or are they just getting by and leaving you in a difficult situation?

But there's also this: is the roommate in the mindset of "where to cut what"? Maybe they prefer to reduce current expenses instead of increasing the rent, but they're not expressing that. In that sense, what is the situation with the budget plan? Has it ever been looked at item by item?

Maybe they're not discussing moving or the raise, but they're subtly nudging you towards the point of "I'm not carrying this load, but you should." In other words, they adjust not the lineup, but the load. Ask your roommate: Are you really splitting the costs 50/50 instead of the rent, or are there other asymmetries apart from the currency increase?

Perhaps there was already a problem in sharing the burden of price increases, but it became more visible with the excuse of the currency rise. Was it truly about equal sharing from the beginning? Or were you providing something extra, and is that now starting to stand out?

If your roommate is using the currency increase merely as an excuse for a raise, perhaps the real issue is entirely about the "comfort of not moving." In other words, the stress of moving and the idea of establishing a new setup might be holding them back. You could clarify the motive directly by asking, "Why are you clinging to staying here instead of avoiding the raise?" There might be another calculation hidden there.

Maybe the issue isn't just these price hikes, but your roommate is dragging you into an untenable situation and trying to be the sole decision-maker in the environment. Since they seem determined to stay in their place, another "control" issue might be at play. Look back at who made the final decisions in the past.

It feels a bit like a "my rules apply here" struggle to me. Are you getting stuck on the same issues, or is this timing issue just the final act? If there were moments before when you felt manipulated over little things, then that’s where it can be resolved.

The landlord's request for an increase and the roommate's attitude seem intertwined at a certain point, but the real question is this: Is your roommate someone who can manage scarce resources? In other words, can they handle their financial responsibilities not just in the matter of the increase, but in general? Or have they been expecting you to play a "fixer" role from the very beginning? This story about the increase could be a test.

Your roommate might be feeling pressured by the price hike, but if they can't express it openly, it’s worth questioning their communication style as well. Could they be hiding another stress by saying more about rent and wanting to avoid adding to their burden? Instead of just asking, "What are we going to do?" I think you should also ask, "How has this increase affected you?" A different dynamic might emerge from that.

If a strategy is being developed based on currency fluctuations, it could also be a matter of "who the crisis affects." In other words, it's not about distributing economic stress equally, but rather an effort to shift the burden to others in a way that minimizes harm to one's own area. So, has there been a squeeze in shared space usage or household chores alongside this issue of wage increases? Because often, such behaviors aren't just focused on money; they spill over into other areas as well.

Could your housemate's passivity regarding the raise issue indicate that they perhaps never truly embraced the idea of making a "joint decision" from the beginning? In other words, were you always the one proposing solutions to major or minor issues related to the house, whether it was about currency fluctuations or rent increases? If so, their current attitude seems to stem from a habit.

Maybe it's not just about avoiding the price increase, but rather the comfort of staying here serves another purpose for them? Clearly, your roommate doesn’t want to move, but is it just for economic reasons, or is there an environmental or social attachment involved? There might be other "comforts" around them that create dependency. Ask if they have gotten accustomed to the neighborhood or if there’s some other dependency.

They might not want to break away from their own system, but on the other hand, there's the issue of sustainability of that system. For example, how were past increases resolved? Were you the one managing the background tasks back then? Have you ever tried to bring it to the surface by asking, "If we were to move, what would you do, and how much would you contribute?" Because maybe they are already acting like it's written on a blank piece of paper in the economic aspect.

Is the landlord's request for a rent increase and the roommate's attitude actually the same thing? Is your roommate really resisting, or are they just saying, "this works for us, don't look for another solution" and making it easier for the landlord? If they are staying pretty quiet, this attitude might be facilitating things. I think it's worth questioning a bit.

To understand whether your roommate is using this silence as a tactic, ask this: Have you ever received a clear solution proposal from them or a response like "Okay, I get it, let's do this"? Or do they always seem to observe your search for solutions and then act as if they accept the outcome? Because not saying anything can sometimes be the easiest way to pass the entire burden onto the other person.

Aside from the salary issue, is there a general saving habit? In other words, can you infer something by looking at personal expenses outside of rent and bills? If they don't know how to save money at all, you will see this pattern not only with salary increases but also in other things in the future.

Could your roommate's silence on this issue be due to not seeing a realistic alternative? For example, if they are considering moving but their budget doesn’t allow it, they might be trying to solve the situation through their own passivity. It might be necessary to push a little and talk to them about "what will happen in the end?".

Maybe it's not passivity, but actually a belief that "the values aren't permanent"? So does he think, for example, that if the currency drops, the rent will remain the same? Have you ever tried talking on this basis, because if the perception of uncertainty changes, his attitude might change as well.

I think it's excessively optimistic to believe that the roommate thinks the price increases aren't permanent. Maybe they're not even aware of how much they've grown. Have you put the total of the bills and rent in front of them and said, "Look, here we are"? Because some people don't take it seriously without seeing it on paper.

Could there be an expectation behind their behavior of acting as if they won't be affected by the price increase, like a "you'll take care of it anyway" mentality? In other words, could they be thinking that since you have already taken on the burden behind closed doors, they do not see the need to take any action? Has there been any conversation about this between you?

Perhaps a "situation assessment" is missing between the discussions of raises and moving. That is, if they stay in this house, how long can they manage with the current budget? If they move, how much will the expenses increase, and how will they adapt to that? Haven't you ever created such a picture? Because they might be either in the comfort of thinking "they won't bother to look for another place anyway" or have a fear based on real data.

Maybe they don't like discussing price increases, so they always brush off the topic? It could just be their tendency to ignore issues that bother them. Have they ever done this with other stressful topics before?

Maybe the issue isn't about the raise, but rather struggling to communicate openly with you? So is there a general tendency to avoid these kinds of things, or is it just specific to this issue? If they're only being silent about the raise, I suggest you think about what else they might be hiding.

Maybe they have completely handed over the issue of the raise to you with the thought, "you already know better"? You know how sometimes people completely withdraw from thinking about something because they believe someone else will take care of it. Have they had this kind of mentality in other matters before?

Maybe the issue isn't about the raise or the budget, but rather that you haven't clearly defined the rules of cohabitation from the beginning? Like who is responsible for what, when each person intervenes, and such things. Because if someone remains silent on such a critical matter, there may be a more fundamental communication problem. Did you discuss the boundaries from the outset?

But maybe we don't get into so much detail because of this? I mean, instead of saying, "it increased by this much, we paid this much, let's do it like this," we always generalize. Sit down and talk about the numbers one by one, and see what reaction you will get when looking at the same table.

Have you ever thought about what the consequences would be if you faced the possibility of leaving the house? For instance, who would take care of finding a place to move to and settling in there? Because sometimes, even the "weight of the idea of change" can immobilize a person. Perhaps there's a bit of anxiety about uncertainty in that?

But does she seem to be unaffected by the price increases while still maintaining her own spending in the same way? In other words, is there a contradictory comfort within her own budget, have you ever looked into that? If she isn't cutting back on certain things but is still quiet about rent, she might be either overly attached to her comfort zone or has found a way to ignore the situation.

Yet in the midst of all these "maybes," no one has stepped up to suggest a clear communication request. Just sit down and ask directly. When asked, "Why does the rent increase make you so silent?" the answer may not be as complex as you think. I guess everyone is just quiet, trying to fill each other's space.

If they avoid talking about the rent increase but do not show such avoidance on other topics, they may not want to see themselves as the "weaker" or "needy" party in this specific matter. Could it be a matter of pride for them to discuss their financial situation? Have they ever shared anything about their own economic situation?

Maybe talking about the issue of salary increases gives the impression that more will be loaded onto them in the future. You know how a laundry basket gets a little fuller every day, and at some point, it will overflow. That’s why they might not want to touch it at all from the beginning. Is this silence actually a signal of "don't push me harder"?

Maybe the issue isn't directly about the economy, but rather the cultural perception of communal living? In other words, some people internalize financial matters by saying, "I don't have to share this, it's my personal space." Co-living is still not a living culture in Turkey, and most people see it as a temporary obligation. That's why even discussing "this topic" seems silly to them. Do they think like this from the start, I wonder?

So, does this silence give you a message like "I’m already right, there’s no need to talk"? Maybe they’re aware of the situation too, but do you think they might be expecting you to take action, thinking it’s something you should own up to?

Perhaps this silence is actually a "bargaining strategy"? I mean, could it be that they want to delay the conversation to see your limits? It seems like they are testing how much they can push the rate increase or how much you can endure. Have they ever resolved anything like this before through waiting?

Maybe talking about money creates a feeling for him of "my burden will increase" instead of "my control will decrease"? So the issue might not be the economic burden itself, but rather the mental weight of sharing that burden. Do you think this lack of communication gives him a form of power, or is he just hiding his own worries?

If someone is quiet during the time of spending but very active in expenses, isn't that a bit like "I'm pretending to listen to Suzan Kardeş while secretly keeping a Demet Akalın playlist"? Is it consistent within itself, I wonder? Should you question it, or is this an implicit "you first" strategy?

Are you maybe attributing too much meaning by analyzing the silence in such detail? Perhaps he isn’t speaking because he hasn’t actually heard a proposal regarding the raise. Did you put a clear figure on the table?

Maybe they don't take the issue of the raise seriously at all? Can there be someone who thinks "it will be sorted out anyway"? Sometimes people really are not inclined to do anything during a crisis moment; they just go with the flow, thinking "if I ignore it, it will get resolved." Do you think that person even brings this raise topic up in conversation?

I think the issue is not the "raise" itself, but rather who will benefit after the raise. So, for instance, you increase the rent with the expectation of a raise, but you end up incurring such expenses before that raise even happens that it feels like you've already depleted that money. Maybe the silence is this: "what benefit will this raise provide me?" For example, who is controlling the spending? That's where the solution lies.

Maybe after the increase, what matters isn't who will come out ahead, but rather who can withstand the loss better. In other words, could it be a mentality of "I’m already living in these conditions, while you have a more fragile situation, you'll be the first to give up"? Like a psychological poker game.

If your roommate is being unclear about financial matters, are they inadvertently leaking some information about their financial situation? You know, like saying "I've been really overwhelmed with credit card payments lately" or "a new phone came out, but I couldn't get it." Perhaps there's an explanation from their side, but it's being communicated indirectly. You might consider changing your perspective and turning your attention to those comments.

Perhaps in such discussions about raises, the question of "what is each person's responsibility?" might be at the forefront. You're discussing the raise in the rent, but how is the cooperation going on details like who pays the bills and who does the grocery shopping? Maybe behind the excuses for the raise, there's a thought like "I'm already dealing with so many things, so there's no need for this." It's necessary to ask that openly.

Perhaps the issue is less about the distribution of burden and more about a lack of confidence in how the system will operate after the increase. You know, that hesitation of "we can raise it now, but then who and how will replace what?" For example, has there ever been something in the past that was brushed aside with "you'll take care of it"? That recklessness might be tripping them up here.

Maybe instead of all this indirect analysis, we should just directly ask, "Let's talk about the rent increase, how reasonable does it sound to you?" Because the increase is already evident, but leaving it unanswered always places the burden of the issue on your interpretation. State a clear number, see the concrete reaction.

Maybe it's not about the raise, but rather how long you can sustain the current arrangement. You know, one person might think, "I'm managing even under these conditions," while the other might have the mindset of, "We've managed this long, why would it change?" Have you thought about who among you feels like they're "managing" more lately?

Perhaps the issue isn't about the raise or the division of responsibilities, but rather how "willing" your roommate perceives you to be. In other words, sometimes when people feel pressured about something, they switch to a mode of thinking like "well, they want it anyway, so I’ll take a step back." Are you the one always bringing up the topic of a raise, or do they ever take the initiative?

Perhaps the issue isn't the raise or the initiative, but how "more advantageous" you seem to them. So let's say you appear to be a bit more comfortable, then the topic of the raise might seem to them like it's working completely in your favor. Have you truly compared your expenses side by side to clarify who is really feeling the pinch?

So it could also be this: Maybe he doesn’t have any serious plan regarding accepting the raise, but he’s just stalling you. Because as long as the raise is being discussed, you might get bored and think, "Alright, let’s just keep it this way." Try pinning him down directly by asking, "I don’t want a raise, what are you going to do?"

Maybe if he doesn't want a raise, he's scared of leaving home? You know, if there's a raise, you might need to move, and he probably doesn't want to deal with finding someone new. Just ask him, "If you don't accept the raise, what kind of solution do you have in mind?" and see what his options are.

Maybe they are already creating a conflict because they know you will discuss the balance after the price hike. So it's about this worry of "should prices go up, then should I adjust my budget accordingly?" Just ask openly, "At what point do you think you will feel squeezed by these price hikes?" Let's see if they can say something clear or if they are just prolonging the discussion.

Maybe they're not clearly saying they don't want a raise, because in that case they'll have to come up with another solution, and they're too lazy for that. So refusing the raise means either other things will be cut back or compromises will be made in the system. Have you discussed what other items could be addressed in household expenses?

Maybe you're not directly discussing the issue of the increase in terms of "how much of the household expenses are shared." You know, not just rent, but also bills, grocery shopping, cleaning expenses, and so on. Is the distribution of these burdens really balanced overall? Perhaps it's best to start from there.

Maybe the reason they don't want a raise is that they think, "these raises are just their game." In other words, a person's perception of the economy could be influencing your effort to find a solution. Have you ever thought about it from that perspective? Do they see any other "evil" theory behind this?

Maybe he perceives the issue of the salary increase personally. If your request feels like "pressure" to him, he could be being stubborn. How about taking a step back and waiting to see what he might suggest? Sometimes silence can yield clearer results.

Perhaps the reason they don't want to ask for a raise is that if they had a roommate before and felt they were "overpaying" in that experience. Have you ever talked about their previous roommate experiences? Maybe you could gauge if there's a trauma around this issue?

Why does not wanting a raise become the default position? The increase in rent is already a constant fact, something that won't change with bargaining. If someone says, "My budget can't handle this," then you need to discuss future increases and find a long-term solution. Otherwise, this issue will keep coming back around.

Maybe you're not talking openly about your income? They might think you earn more than them, which is why an equal share of the raise doesn't seem fair to them. Ask, "Have we ever talked about our income situation?" Maybe that will help clear things up.

Maybe they aren't questioning the rent, but the house itself? Like having thoughts such as "is this house worth this price, do I really want to continue living here?" If the walls are already damp, and the hot water takes a while to heat up, then the issue might not just be the rent, but overall dissatisfaction. Check in with them, do they actually like the house?

Maybe they don't really want a raise, but have already made up their mind about moving? I mean, this kind of passive resistance might sometimes stem from the thought of "since I'm going to leave anyway, why spend extra?" Are you getting any signals about a potential move without it being openly discussed?

Maybe the whole issue revolves around the rate of the increase? Like you want a 50% raise, and they're okay with 20% or something. Have you ever discussed a specific figure on "what is a reasonable raise"? If the topic is left hanging like this, you're stressing out for no reason.

Perhaps the insistence on not raising prices stems from "social pressure." They might be trapped in a perception like, "money shouldn't be discussed among friends." In this case, they might expect you to approach the matter not from a friendship dynamic, but purely logically, as a household budget item. Have you ever approached the topic with something like, "This isn't personal, it's just math"?

Maybe their refusal to ask for a raise is a case of "I understand, but I don't want to acknowledge it." You know, they might be doing the math in their head, but they tend to procrastinate by saying, "I can't deal with this right now." How about giving a clearer ultimatum, like saying, "We can't keep going like this; we need a solution"? Because if they keep avoiding it, they'll eventually get cornered and explode.

If your roommate is shifting the responsibility of the rent increase onto you and staying silent, it partly has to do with where you've set your boundaries. If there was no initial agreement like "how was your budget planning, what would we do in case of an increase," they might find it unfair for you to raise it on a whim now. If there wasn't a strict agreement from the beginning, it seems to me like you've also given them an opportunity.

Maybe you're overcomplicating the pricing issue? Instead of having long discussions, sit down one day and have a straightforward conversation like "If it costs this much, will you stay, and if not, what do we do?" Sometimes simple questions yield faster results.

Perhaps it needs to be viewed not just as a rent increase, but as the economic burden of the era you are living in? In other words, if you shift the focus to "not just the increase in rent, but the overall rise in the cost of living," it won't feel like an individual issue. It's affecting everyone's wallet, yours and theirs. Have you tried to create awareness from this perspective?

Maybe the issue is not only about the rent, but also about the way you communicate with each other? In other words, the issue of raises could be a pretext; the real matter might be a struggle of "whose word carries more weight." Has this topic become a sticking point for the first time, or have you experienced similar conflicts in other decisions?

Well, as valid as the currency issue may be, let me ask this: If they did not accept the rent increase, did they propose an alternative offer? Or are they completely silent? Because if they aren't presenting an alternative, they might really be acting in their own interest. Ask them to take a clear position, and see if they're dodging the issue.

Maybe it's necessary to bring the job down to the rough construction level. If they're saying, "I can't pay this much," ask, "How much can you pay?" If there's no offer at all, clarify whether they want to proceed or not. Everything is up in the air; let's get it down to earth.

"Was there a budget plan, what will we do if the fees increase?" You might not have had these discussions beforehand, but now is the perfect time to have them. Let's say we've overcome that, what about the bills? Rent is going to go up, but electricity/water is skyrocketing too. If they only negotiate the rent, will similar issues arise with the bills? I think it's best to discuss the total costs from the beginning.

If you're having so many problems, could your roommate be thinking about moving out somewhere else? I mean, they might be staying quiet for now, but if they're thinking something like "I'm going to leave anyway," they could be trying to avoid bothering you. Check in with them about it.

Maybe they have already accepted the rent increase, but since it's an amount that has exceeded their psychological threshold, they might find it hard to voice it? Sometimes, when people are at a budget-constrained point, they can't say "I can't manage this," and instead, they delay it internally and search for a solution. Have you ever directly asked them, "Do you really want to stay?"

Or maybe they're not considering that the rent will increase while they stay, and if they move, there will be more expenses again? You know how sometimes they overlook the moving costs; think about it from that perspective. Let's see if they'll feel more comfortable after they leave.

Perhaps the issue isn't just economic, but also a social expectation mismatch. In other words, does the person assume that while living in the same house, "you can only handle this much"? Such things are sometimes tied to cultural codes; not everyone is accustomed to the same division of responsibilities. Have you tried discussing openly what you expect from a roommate?

Come on, buddy, do you really need to think this much about a rent issue? Do the math, put your share on the table, and say, "This is how much it is, either pay it or leave." Can't even figure out your own share; what cultural code is that? Be pragmatic.