My fiancé follows his exes on social media and occasionally communicates with them. There’s something inside me that feels uncomfortable about this situation. How should he respond to this? Is there really a need for this?
I had a similar experience; I found out that my ex-fiancée was constantly talking to her ex-boyfriends. I spoke openly about it, but it didn't lead to a solution, and we broke up. Sometimes you have to be willing to take the risk of getting hurt.
It's rude to ask, how do you know these things? Did you see their messages, or did they tell you?
@kahvebitmeden Yeah, I heard it once from him, and I've seen it a few times on his profile. In fact, he accidentally called someone recently 🫠
@aklimkaldi but you say it yourself, this is not something new. if you show this kind of ease early on with guys, everything starts to normalize. it seems like you haven't shown your discomfort much 🙃
there's a boundary issue here. it's not the same for everyone, but if it's something that bothers you, you need to say it clearly. your partner's reaction will determine the framework for this.
extra contact with exes? I don't think it's necessary 🤔
The "accidental call" part honestly seems a bit strange to me. I mean, was it really an accident, or was it a way to initiate contact under false pretenses? This detail is important because it changes the matter of intent. If these kinds of things keep happening, I suggest you think about it more 😬
Being in contact with ex-lovers is perceived differently by everyone, but here’s the issue: what is your place in these relationships? As long as your feelings are clear, every moment you remain in uncertainty makes you feel worse. Don’t leave this discomfort unresolved 🤷♀️
