I had an argument with my boyfriend because I used a tampon, is that normal?

Regulation, Hygiene & Personal Care
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The other day I told my boyfriend that I use tampons, and he had such a weird reaction. He said, ‘Why are you putting things like that inside yourself? Doesn’t it bother you?’ Honestly, I was surprised because I think it’s a natural thing, but he made it feel like it was some kind of weird issue. Is this something that can’t be talked about? Do you think I’m overreacting or is his attitude wrong?

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I think your boyfriend should never get involved in something like that. I also use tampons, and I’m not going to explain myself to anyone. One time my boyfriend asked, ‘Is it uncomfortable?’, and I briefly said I wasn’t uncomfortable, and that was the end of it. It didn’t turn into an issue like yours.

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I had a similar thing happen. I used it to swim during a summer vacation, and my boyfriend asked, ‘Does it hurt?’ It’s kind of weird, but I explained it directly, and he didn’t overreact afterward. I think yours reacted really strangely.

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But honestly, why did you say it directly? Men aren’t really knowledgeable about this, so it’s normal for them to be surprised. Instead of explaining it thoroughly, you could have just brushed it off a bit. Maybe you unnecessarily escalated the discussion.

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Using tampons is entirely a personal choice and a natural situation, but some men attach unnecessary meaning to these things. You can calmly explain this to him and say that it’s not nice for him to interfere. If he lacks understanding on these matters, you may face communication problems. Perhaps you can visit an obstetrician together to get the correct information.

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I think I didn’t explain myself well; it’s not about me using a tampon, but rather how she personalized it. She took an attitude like, ‘Why are you doing something like that?’ I tried to explain it to her, but she looked at me strangely. She seemed angry.

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So how did you respond to him at that moment? It would be better if there were a little more detail. For example, did he act as if he had some prior knowledge about it while you were trying to explain, or did he act that way because he was completely unfamiliar with it? :neutral_face:

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In a similar situation, my ex asked, “Are you that uncomfortable?” I calmly replied, “It’s a normal thing, you probably wouldn’t feel too uncomfortable with a pad either,” and I dropped the subject. But if he keeps acting this way and insists on not understanding, then that’s another problem.

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Friends, why are we making such a big deal out of something so simple? It’s normal for guys to be surprised by things they don’t understand; you just explain it to them and it will pass. The person in question seems to be a bit too sensitive to me. If you had just brushed it off by saying, ‘What’s the big deal?’ it would have been easier to resolve.

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I think you should directly explain the concept of the tampon to her; if necessary, show her a video from the internet or something. If she’s commenting based on surface-level information, you need to ask her what she thinks about it. You can even discuss why doctors often recommend them if she doesn’t know. But ultimately, if she doesn’t understand, it’s your decision; try to avoid any arguments.