My aunt shares everything she sees on social media with the family and even asked about my boyfriend's salary. When I learned about this, I thought to myself, 'that's enough already,' why does she need to know something so personal? Her knowing this much about my relationship makes me feel anxious. What should I do, should I set boundaries?
this is literally peer pressure. who is asking about whose salary? I hope you talked about this with your partner. it's none of everyone's business.
Why are you responding to your questions?
@pazardandondum Honestly, I hadn't learned this much directly. I think she talked to my mother, so it must be something shared with her.
So you’re the one giving grandma all this information? If you hadn’t shared it with anyone from the start, it wouldn’t be so complicated.
the same thing happened to me. they were getting involved enough to know everyone's salary. I cut off communication directly, otherwise there would be no peace 🥲
This could be jealousy or a control impulse within the family. In such cases, it can increase further if boundaries are not clearly set. You are not obligated to share the same information with everyone; you can make that clear.
@benbisorayim this is also somewhat dependent on family structure, of course. Not everyone can choose individuality like you; these things can directly provoke backlash.
I would tell it to your face directly, without beating around the bush.
If it's that confusing, you can't possibly not know your own privacy. Where does this courage come from? What did you share first, look there.
The root of this issue could be in your mother, so see if there's a way to break the chain from there. Instead of dealing with your aunt, clarify what and how much you'll share with your mother. Sometimes information goes from one place and then spreads to everyone.
