The other day, I heard that my aunt showed my mom a story my girlfriend posted on Instagram. This completely drove me crazy. I don't understand why they are so interested in my girlfriend's private life. They even put restrictions on what she writes! What should I do?
My aunt did a similar thing a while ago; I had posted a photo with my girlfriend on Instagram, and she went and showed it to my mom. It caused quite an argument. Families, you know, they have a hard time understanding.
I don't think it's ill-intentioned for family elders to want to get to know your partner. In the past, such things were discussed directly as a couple, but now everyone lives on social media. I think you should sit down and ask them about their intentions.
@kahvebitmeden what’s the point in asking about someone’s intentions, that’s an invasion of privacy. If you don’t want to understand, you won’t. Just because it’s social media doesn’t give anyone the right to meddle in your business 🫠
By the way, if there's something excessive in your partner's stories (like alcohol, cigarettes, etc.), be careful; they might come down hard on you, using your family's sensitivities as an excuse. At least observe carefully for a while longer 😳
I was wondering if your aunt has been watching your boyfriend on purpose or if she just happened to see him? I mean, did she stalk him specifically? 😅
@pazardandondum I think they check in occasionally when they sit with my mom, so she's not directly stalking my boyfriend, but when they see his stories, she stops and shows them, you know? 😅
@hatconene I don't think we should take it too seriously, after all, he lives with family, maybe it's a cultural difference 🙄
I think this can't be solved without speaking openly.
Maybe the issue is more about testing your boundaries than your partner. They could be bringing your private life to your mom just to gauge her reaction. Do you catch your aunt behaving like this in other situations as well?
Pay attention to your mother's reactions as much as your aunt's intentions. Your aunt is showing a story, but the main issue might be how your mother is handling it. Is there a special agenda between them, perhaps?
Perhaps the real issue is not the story itself, but rather the question marks in their minds about the seriousness of your relationship. Your partner's story might just be an excuse. Things like this usually lead to an investigation of "who is this guy, what's his intention?" Be careful.
