There’s a phenomenon couple on social media that has literally toyed with our emotions. They keep announcing their breakups, then get back together and share a bunch of love-filled pictures. Do you think these kinds of relationships are normal? Or could it be a strategy just to gain followers? Should I stop following them or just enjoy the ride?
A couple like this really exhausted me for a while. I would wake up in the morning and see news about their breakup, and it really affected me, like an inner turmoil. Then they would get back together, another rollercoaster. I don't think it's very healthy, but I felt relieved once I stopped following them.
My friend's relationship was like that too. They would constantly break up and get back together, and then I realized he was really trying to focus. I think couples like that can’t even trust themselves. Staying in a relationship with chaotic people is exhausting.
If you're enjoying it, keep going, but if you're overthinking it, I think you should just hit unfollow. If constantly keeping up with it doesn't make you feel good, why are you keeping it in your life?
As a society, we are tolerating these things too much now. Everything has moved to social media. In the past, no one would announce every fight to the world in a relationship. A relationship is sacred, but unfortunately, this PR thing has made it seem superficial.
How long has this couple been like this? Or have they been acting this way for only a few months? Maybe they have some trauma in their past... Because couples like this are usually addicted to chaos.
Sorry, but I didn't understand you either. You keep saying they break up and make up, but it clearly sounds fake. Why are you still following them? You might secretly find their drama entertaining.
It actually seems fun on one hand, but then I find myself affected by their relationship. This cycle of breaking up and getting back together has added anxiety to my own life as well. Maybe I'm taking it too seriously.
This situation may generally indicate that both parties are experiencing communication problems and have developed an emotional dependence behind the scenes. The cycle of breaking up and reconciling can create a kind of addiction through hormones like dopamine/oxytocin. On the other hand, this situation could also be a PR move aimed at attracting followers. I would suggest a social media detox to draw a clear line.
Real love, as you say, requires effort and grows on a stable foundation. However, the inconsistent behavior of these people can harm both their relationships and their followers. Being dependent on chaos and fluctuations is not romantic; it normalizes an unhealthy relationship model.
