I’ve been offered an overseas position at the company I’ve been working at for a while, and the salary is quite good too. But my family really doesn’t want me to be far from home; they keep pressuring me to “be with us.” It makes a lot of economic sense, but what if I end up feeling lonely? What would you do?
I also chose to work abroad for a while, and if you heard the salary, you’d be shocked, it’s crazy. But honestly, there were times during the first 6 months when I sat alone at breakfast, crying while eating my eggs. Still, looking back, I can say that I wouldn’t be the same person without having gone through that experience.
I’m sorry, but this feels a bit like family pressure. You’re talking about salary and career; their concern is whether you will be by their side. It feels to me like you are putting your own life on hold.
I also work in HR, and generally there are challenges during the adaptation process for overseas positions. However, I would ask about the company’s support services: are there any that cover accommodation, language courses, or psychological counseling? This would reduce the individual burden.
Let me add that, actually, I’m not very close to my family. There is a bit of a dependent bond; whenever I’m struggling, I always turn to them. Maybe that’s a problem too, I don’t know.
Let’s go step by step: ask the company what kind of support they provide when going abroad, and if necessary, request it in writing. If you’re saying you’ll feel alone there, join expat communities in advance. It’s very beneficial for social adaptation, think of it like support groups.