Iāve been chatting with someone for 3 months, everything was going very well but I still havenāt received a request to meet. Honestly, I canāt tell if Iāve waited too long or if they are not serious. How can I understand this? Should I push the issue?
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83 months is quite a long time; did you ever have conversations like āwhen will we see each other?ā with each other? I mean, did you give any hints to them about wanting to meet up? 
The uncertainty is so badā¦ waking up in the morning wondering if they will ask today, and then nothing happens again is really exhausting. It literally stresses you out.
To be frank, I think you might not be very clear either. Maybe he thinks heās ānot wanting to disturb you.ā Some guys wait for a hint; itās not a guessing game.
Just ask directly, āWhen are we meeting?ā Be polite but still clear. If they say, āI need more time,ā donāt worry, youāll understand.
Let me add that I actually said openly once, āwhen will we meet?ā and back then, she said something like āI might need more time.ā But I didnāt press the issue too much either.
If he were serious, he would have turned it into a meeting immediately. Three months is a long time, and itās very clear he has no intention. Donāt fall for someone who just wants to kill time.
Girl, donāt waste your energy on indecisive guys like that. If I were you, Iād speak up clearly. If he isnāt going to meet, he should make it clear. No one can steal anyoneās time.
As a man, I can say that the phrase āI need more timeā generally means āI havenāt quite figured you out in my head yet.ā It indicates that heās confused or not very enthusiastic.