My family always gives me wrong information about pregnancy. They say things like, 'Drink a lot of tea to avoid miscarriage.' I'm worried about how to act with this information, and I can't share this situation with anyone. I'm afraid of what might happen.
I had similar experiences too. When I was pregnant, someone told me to "eat sugar with a cup so the baby would be chubby." That's just completely nonsense, of course; I followed a plan based on advice from a dietitian.
Are you listening to these things, then? How sensible is it to move with tea-drinking conversations?
@kahvebitmeden What should I do, sometimes they come at me so hard that I can't even stand up to them. And the worst part is they keep giving examples, like 'if you don't do this, it'll be like what happened to that neighbor' and so on 🤷♀️
@aklimkaldi I don’t understand why you’re giving in either. If you don’t speak up against hearsay, they’ll always keep coming at you 🤷♀️
You can't be serious, preventing low with tea? 🙄
In such cases, it's best to talk to your doctor. There is a lot of misinformation circulating in society. Tea has no such effect whatsoever.
I saw the headline, and it's always like this. Whatever anyone says in the neighborhood seems to be true. Everyone has become a biology expert, incredible.
I should tell her to go to obstetrics, there's no other solution.
Honestly, don't pay much attention to those around you. Acting according to what the doctor says will ease your mind.
This incident is already compared with neighbors. Maybe no one believes that tea prevents low energy, but they manipulate you with the story of "this didn't happen, but that happened to them." Also, when they can't prevent it, they set the stage to blame you by saying, "See, we told you so." 🤷♀️
But let me tell you something, the worst part is that sometimes those hearsay things turn out to be true by chance, and that's when they come down even harder on you. Have you ever experienced something like that? That confusion is just awful.
Coincidental correct predictions are much worse because then the "we told you so" vibe can last forever. But the main problem is that even if something like this turns out to be true, nobody questions how that information was verified, under what conditions it is valid. Everyone walks around like a hearsay scientist.
There’s also this aspect to it: when it’s said within the family, whether you want it or not, it can make you feel a sense of responsibility. You start to feel anxious thinking, "What if it’s true?" That’s why those silly suggestions become more effective; they stress you out even when you don't want to.
The problem is that "what if it's true" doubt. Even if it's not an option, it spins in your mind like a possibility, and before you know it, it influences your decisions. That’s why you need to pause at some point and eliminate that doubt with clear information; otherwise, it feels like you have to do everything. So I ask, which is worse: those who speak without knowing, or those who don’t stop it even knowing?
But let me say one thing, what if the root of this issue actually comes from not being able to trust doctors? I mean, there’s that mindset among some people that "doctors don’t know everything," and it’s like a reflex triggered by that. Because they fill that knowledge gap with the ridiculous suggestions of others, you see.
On one hand, there’s this: People tend to regard their own experience as superior to that of doctors, because the stories of those around them seem more "real." But what percentage are you in the same circumstances? Is this a solution to a situation the doctor cannot know, or just a meaningless anecdote? No one questions these things.
The real problem is that at some point, you too start to get swept away by this flood of information and begin to wonder if it's really true. You said no one questions it, but on the other hand, people stop making that inquiry. As you think, "What if these hearsay things turn out to be true?" you gradually start to dismiss even that doctor's information; don't you think so?
But that's precisely the issue of trust crisis. It's not just about not caring for the doctor; it's also about not caring for oneself. People disable their own minds while commenting on others' stories. One needs to be able to say, "My situation is not like that," and that requires courage.
