My family doesn’t like my girlfriend at all and they are questioning my relationship with her. Honestly, I’m very happy with her, but my family is worrying me. What kind of path should I take in this situation? Is it possible to convince both my family and my girlfriend?
I had a similar situation with my ex as well. My family didn’t want it from the beginning, but to be honest, I didn’t intervene much because I was extremely happy. Then when issues started, they said ‘we told you so.’ So you need to think things through seriously a couple of times.
What exactly do the grandparents not like, for example? The profession, the character? Maybe you can figure it out from there.
@kahvebitmeden They find his character a bit cold, and they constantly bring up his financial situation. I mean, he’s not unemployed or anything, but I guess in my family’s eyes, it’s not enough.
I think the issue here is not love but that your family doesn’t trust your decisions. Because financial issues are always an excuse. Also, coldness is a relative thing.
If the issue keeps getting stuck on material things, the problem is not with your partner but with the dynamics between you and your family. Clarify the concerns of both parties by having a discussion about what exactly they find lacking. However, this situation might force your partner to be in a constant defense mode, so be mindful of that.
it’s not a big deal to face family pressure.
@benbisorayim it’s not about defending the loved one, the issue is wrong from the start. Does everyone have to be with who their family wants? The family should also know some boundaries.