I’m thinking of marrying my girlfriend, but whenever this topic comes up, my mom jumps right in. I’ve become unable to explain myself. Honestly, I’m struggling to make my own decisions. How do you think I should manage this situation?
draw a small clear boundary, otherwise this will keep going on.
How old are you, and do you live in the same house?
@soncaykaldi yes, we live in the same house, I can’t move out yet because of sharing the rent expenses.
It used to be like this with my dad; it decreased once he found a job, but it didn’t completely end.
@uykuarasi of course it won’t end, your family acts like they’re the boss of your life, and you’re allowing it.
People blame their mothers, but for example, you wrote about rent; clearly, there is a signal indicating that there is distrust.
Such a situation can be resolved more through mutual independence lines. If you are living together, clarifying when you will move to a separate house before confronting your mother could be a good first step.