My mom criticizes my girlfriendâs clothes every time, she literally says she doesnât dress like a lady. What should I do? I feel like my girlfriend is getting distant because of this. I love her, but I also have to respect my family.
why are you explaining this, actually?
my friends had also commented on my girlfriendâs style, but since they didnât say it directly to her face, we tolerated it. try to be a bit of a buffer in between, maybe.
How long have you been together? Are you serious enough to introduce her to your mom directly?
@yazipsildim we have a serious relationship, weâve been together for 2 years but according to my mom, the outfit is excessive.
@kahvebitmeden what do you mean by buffer? Here, the motherâs words are overshadowed, and it clearly talks about taking advantage of the partner.
The main issue here is the feeling of âcoolnessâ. If the reason for feeling this way is your motherâs direct attitude, you need to talk to your partner and clearly express that this pressure is coming from your family, not from you. By now, after three years, you should have already established this communication.
Did you react immediately when your mother criticized your girlfriendâs clothes, or did you stay silent? Because if your mother isnât backing down, she might think, âmy daughter is quiet, she clearly doesnât find it unfair.â You need to break this perception; otherwise, this situation will keep repeating.